To me it’s the final outcome that matters most … it’s clearly a better option than ending up with one still-pretty-poor me … This is, of course, my subjective utility, I have no claim that it is better than anyone else’s for them.
How could one know with any certainty what’s better for them (in the murkier cases)? Alternatively, if you do have a process that allows you to learn what’s better to you, you should claim that you can also help others to apply that process in order to figure out what’s better to them (which may be a different thing than what the process says about you).
You can of course decide what to do, but having ability to implement your own decisions is separate from having ability to find decisions that are reliably correct, from knowing that the decisions you make are clearly right or pursuing what in fact matters the most.
How could one know with any certainty what’s better for them (in the murkier cases)? Alternatively, if you do have a process that allows you to learn what’s better to you, you should claim that you can also help others to apply that process in order to figure out what’s better to them (which may be a different thing than what the process says about you).
You can of course decide what to do, but having ability to implement your own decisions is separate from having ability to find decisions that are reliably correct, from knowing that the decisions you make are clearly right or pursuing what in fact matters the most.