Don’t think of small talk as a way to bond—think of it as ritualized low-effort behavior one engages in while evaluating the other person.
I was in fact referring to casual interactions as way to bond and build rapport, because a lot of people do it that way, and I also think that’s what MathiasZaman suggested (though maybe he meant it in a different way?).
Oh wait. Is that what you mean by small talk? I think my understanding of the concept just shifted.
I was thinking of small talk as “that boring thing people do when they don’t want to talk about serious stuff”. But of course I use it in the fashion that you described, and it’s actually quite fun when done that way.
I was in fact referring to casual interactions as way to bond and build rapport, because a lot of people do it that way, and I also think that’s what MathiasZaman suggested (though maybe he meant it in a different way?).
Oh wait. Is that what you mean by small talk? I think my understanding of the concept just shifted. I was thinking of small talk as “that boring thing people do when they don’t want to talk about serious stuff”. But of course I use it in the fashion that you described, and it’s actually quite fun when done that way.
If you actually want to bond, you don’t want casual interactions—you want highly emotional shared experiences.
That sounds right. Thank you for pointing out the distinction.