‘When you tell me to do things, I instinctively do them, but I don’t think you could actually make me do anything. You’re in charge of me because of me, not you.’
And he figured this out at age 9? I’m impressed. I didn’t reach that point until quite a few years later.
You don’t point out every assumption. The contrary assumption is equally implicit in the other person mentioning it at all. Which doesn’t seem any better justified.
Do you have any better info or … ? I mean I can see why people wouldn’t want to know that things they find happy-causing are surprising to some others—so there’s that I suppose. But I doubt you’d want to see yourself that way, so what’re you trading for here?
And he figured this out at age 9? I’m impressed. I didn’t reach that point until quite a few years later.
Really? Never tried screaming “You can’t make me!” or asked “Why should I?!” Seems to be an insight most children have to me.
This seems perfectly normal if the parents don’t make unfair or unexplained requests, and the kid follows fair requests.
Don’t know what the prevalence of reasonable parents is.
(You were making that assumption with a rhetorical “Really?”, so I’ve pointed it out.)
You don’t point out every assumption. The contrary assumption is equally implicit in the other person mentioning it at all. Which doesn’t seem any better justified.
Do you have any better info or … ? I mean I can see why people wouldn’t want to know that things they find happy-causing are surprising to some others—so there’s that I suppose. But I doubt you’d want to see yourself that way, so what’re you trading for here?
There’s a difference between saying something (or screaming it) and understanding it.