Attractiveness comes in many forms. I’m extroverted and write better than I look, so I do well at dinner parties and OKCupid. You can be attractive in dancing skill, in spiritual practice, in demonstrable expertise, in an artistic pursuit… guitar players get laid even if they’re not that good looking.
And yet, everyone’s first association when talking about “aim for 100 dates” is Tinder, which works only for the men who are top 20% in the one aspect of attractiveness that’s crowded and hard to improve—physical looks. This includes men who self-report as unattractive, like this commenter (and presumably, “Simon”).
The minimum threshold of attractivenes on Tinder is incredibly high, much higher than almost any other place to look for dates. It’s certainly higher than my own good looks — I only turn Tinder on when I leave the country.
Attractiveness comes in many forms. I’m extroverted and write better than I look, so I do well at dinner parties and OKCupid. You can be attractive in dancing skill, in spiritual practice, in demonstrable expertise, in an artistic pursuit… guitar players get laid even if they’re not that good looking.
And yet, everyone’s first association when talking about “aim for 100 dates” is Tinder, which works only for the men who are top 20% in the one aspect of attractiveness that’s crowded and hard to improve—physical looks. This includes men who self-report as unattractive, like this commenter (and presumably, “Simon”).
The minimum threshold of attractivenes on Tinder is incredibly high, much higher than almost any other place to look for dates. It’s certainly higher than my own good looks — I only turn Tinder on when I leave the country.