I don’t really have a good idea of the principles, here. Personally, whenever I’ve made a big difference in a person’s life (and it’s been obvious to me that I’ve done so), I try to take care of them as much as I can and make sure they’re okay.
...However, I have ran into a couple issues with this. Sometimes someone or something takes too much energy, and some distance is healthier. I don’t know how to judge this other than intuition, but I think I’ve gone too far before?
And I have no idea how much this can scale. I think I’ve had far bigger impacts than I’ve intended, in some cases. One time I had a friend who was really in trouble and I had to go to pretty substantial lengths to get them to a better place, and I’m not sure all versions of them would’ve endorsed that, even if they do now.
...But, broadly, “do what you can to empower other people to make their own decisions, when you can, instead of trying to tell them what to do” does seem like a good principle, especially for the people who have more power in a given situation? I definitely haven’t treated this as an absolute rule, but in most cases I’m pretty careful not to stray from it.
There’s a complication where sometimes it’s very difficult to get people not to interpret things as an instruction. “Confuse them” seems to work, I guess, but it does have drawbacks too.
I don’t really have a good idea of the principles, here. Personally, whenever I’ve made a big difference in a person’s life (and it’s been obvious to me that I’ve done so), I try to take care of them as much as I can and make sure they’re okay.
...However, I have ran into a couple issues with this. Sometimes someone or something takes too much energy, and some distance is healthier. I don’t know how to judge this other than intuition, but I think I’ve gone too far before?
And I have no idea how much this can scale. I think I’ve had far bigger impacts than I’ve intended, in some cases. One time I had a friend who was really in trouble and I had to go to pretty substantial lengths to get them to a better place, and I’m not sure all versions of them would’ve endorsed that, even if they do now.
...But, broadly, “do what you can to empower other people to make their own decisions, when you can, instead of trying to tell them what to do” does seem like a good principle, especially for the people who have more power in a given situation? I definitely haven’t treated this as an absolute rule, but in most cases I’m pretty careful not to stray from it.
There’s a complication where sometimes it’s very difficult to get people not to interpret things as an instruction. “Confuse them” seems to work, I guess, but it does have drawbacks too.