It’s important to recognize that not all children respond to the same incentives.
I have a parentally anti-authortarian master game theorist for a six year old whose “natural consequences” are often disastrous. It takes a lot of finesse to manipulate him. A combination of honest, fun engagement and honest, threatened punishments. That’s not a necessary or desirable response to other children though.
That sounds familiar. I have four of these but at least it is not that disastrous mostly. Threatened punishments don’t really work. I can’t use them. I’m not behind them and if I must it dosn’t go well. My wife does sometimes and it works—but not for long. Finesse with incentives and patience work best. But these require resources that are not always avilable.
It’s important to recognize that not all children respond to the same incentives.
I have a parentally anti-authortarian master game theorist for a six year old whose “natural consequences” are often disastrous. It takes a lot of finesse to manipulate him. A combination of honest, fun engagement and honest, threatened punishments. That’s not a necessary or desirable response to other children though.
That sounds familiar. I have four of these but at least it is not that disastrous mostly. Threatened punishments don’t really work. I can’t use them. I’m not behind them and if I must it dosn’t go well. My wife does sometimes and it works—but not for long. Finesse with incentives and patience work best. But these require resources that are not always avilable.