Credibly dissociate yourself from people you don’t want to be pattern-matched to, and show that you understand the reasoning by which your audience opposes them (in this case, for example, Salemicus should at least acknowledge that at-fault divorce can—to put it mildly! - increase underlying gender inequality without any explicitly gendered provisions), and that you’re not going to defend them in that particular battle. Leftists do it all the time, to the extent that they have the opposite problem of not being able to unite while agreeing with each other on 95% of everything.
But there’s no-one who advocates dragging people off in chains, slavery, etc. This isn’t pattern-matching me to some well-known group (in which case I agree, I should distinguish myself). Instead, this is just deliberately straw-manning.
I don’t know exactly what you mean by “punishing sinners”—but I assume you mean treating adultery as not just a breach of contract, but a tort. Well, damages for a tort are also financial.
As for “underlying gender inequality”—you’ll notice that no-one else has brought that up in this thread. Perhaps that is the “reasoning by which [my] audience opposes” me”, but if so I’d prefer that people actually advanced that reasoning, rather than that being their double super-secret baseline position, and their public one being a lot of straw-manning and nonsense. Alternatively, it may be that the “underlying gender inequality” argument is yours and yours alone, and you are projecting.
Credibly dissociate yourself from people you don’t want to be pattern-matched to, and show that you understand the reasoning by which your audience opposes them (in this case, for example, Salemicus should at least acknowledge that at-fault divorce can—to put it mildly! - increase underlying gender inequality without any explicitly gendered provisions), and that you’re not going to defend them in that particular battle. Leftists do it all the time, to the extent that they have the opposite problem of not being able to unite while agreeing with each other on 95% of everything.
But there’s no-one who advocates dragging people off in chains, slavery, etc. This isn’t pattern-matching me to some well-known group (in which case I agree, I should distinguish myself). Instead, this is just deliberately straw-manning.
I don’t know exactly what you mean by “punishing sinners”—but I assume you mean treating adultery as not just a breach of contract, but a tort. Well, damages for a tort are also financial.
As for “underlying gender inequality”—you’ll notice that no-one else has brought that up in this thread. Perhaps that is the “reasoning by which [my] audience opposes” me”, but if so I’d prefer that people actually advanced that reasoning, rather than that being their double super-secret baseline position, and their public one being a lot of straw-manning and nonsense. Alternatively, it may be that the “underlying gender inequality” argument is yours and yours alone, and you are projecting.