This is also completely true when trying to talk to new people: being curious trumps all tricks and made-up sentences you can find. That was actually an epiphany for me, where I realized that my difficulty with starting conversation with new people stemmed from my lack of curiosity—just like you wrote, I thought I had them figured out. Turns out I’m not that great at figuring out people I never spoke to.
This is me also. I fail to make small talk, or talk at all, because although I’m quite curious about a lot of things, I’m not really curious about people. I think that usually my problem is I don’t want to snoop on people lives. Turn out, that people likes —in general— to be questioned about their lives and it’s something specially useful when need to break the ice to meet new people.
I totally agree.
This is also completely true when trying to talk to new people: being curious trumps all tricks and made-up sentences you can find. That was actually an epiphany for me, where I realized that my difficulty with starting conversation with new people stemmed from my lack of curiosity—just like you wrote, I thought I had them figured out. Turns out I’m not that great at figuring out people I never spoke to.
This is me also. I fail to make small talk, or talk at all, because although I’m quite curious about a lot of things, I’m not really curious about people. I think that usually my problem is I don’t want to snoop on people lives. Turn out, that people likes —in general— to be questioned about their lives and it’s something specially useful when need to break the ice to meet new people.