I’ve been working on some more emotional bugs lately, and I’m noticing that many of the core issues that I’m dragging up are ones I’ve noticed at various points in the past and then just… ? I somehow just managed to forget about them, though I remember that in round 1 it also took a good deal of introspection for these issues to rise to the top. Keeping a permanent list of core emotional bugs would be an easy fix. The list would need to be somewhere I look at least once a week. I don’t always have to be working on all of them, but I at least need to not forget that these problems exist.
Probably not an accident. Forgetfulness is one of the main tools your mind will use to get you to stop thinking about things. If you make a list you might end up flinching away from looking at the list.
Is that a prediction about how one’s default “forget painful stuff” mechanisms work, or have you previously made a list and also ended up ignoring it? You’ve written elsewhere about conquering a lot of emotional bugs in the past year, and I’d be interested to know what you did to keep those bugs in mind and not forget about them.
I have forgotten about important emotional bugs before, and have seen other people literally forget the topic of the conversation when it turns to a sufficiently thorny emotional bug.
The thing that usually happens to my lists is that they feel wrong and I have to regenerate them from scratch constantly; they’re like Focusing labels that expire and aren’t quite right anymore.
The past year I was dealing with what felt to me like approximately one very large bug (roughly an anxious-preoccupied attachment thing), so it was easy to remember.
I’ve been working on some more emotional bugs lately, and I’m noticing that many of the core issues that I’m dragging up are ones I’ve noticed at various points in the past and then just… ? I somehow just managed to forget about them, though I remember that in round 1 it also took a good deal of introspection for these issues to rise to the top. Keeping a permanent list of core emotional bugs would be an easy fix. The list would need to be somewhere I look at least once a week. I don’t always have to be working on all of them, but I at least need to not forget that these problems exist.
Probably not an accident. Forgetfulness is one of the main tools your mind will use to get you to stop thinking about things. If you make a list you might end up flinching away from looking at the list.
Is that a prediction about how one’s default “forget painful stuff” mechanisms work, or have you previously made a list and also ended up ignoring it? You’ve written elsewhere about conquering a lot of emotional bugs in the past year, and I’d be interested to know what you did to keep those bugs in mind and not forget about them.
I have forgotten about important emotional bugs before, and have seen other people literally forget the topic of the conversation when it turns to a sufficiently thorny emotional bug.
The thing that usually happens to my lists is that they feel wrong and I have to regenerate them from scratch constantly; they’re like Focusing labels that expire and aren’t quite right anymore.
The past year I was dealing with what felt to me like approximately one very large bug (roughly an anxious-preoccupied attachment thing), so it was easy to remember.