Is that a prediction about how one’s default “forget painful stuff” mechanisms work, or have you previously made a list and also ended up ignoring it? You’ve written elsewhere about conquering a lot of emotional bugs in the past year, and I’d be interested to know what you did to keep those bugs in mind and not forget about them.
I have forgotten about important emotional bugs before, and have seen other people literally forget the topic of the conversation when it turns to a sufficiently thorny emotional bug.
The thing that usually happens to my lists is that they feel wrong and I have to regenerate them from scratch constantly; they’re like Focusing labels that expire and aren’t quite right anymore.
The past year I was dealing with what felt to me like approximately one very large bug (roughly an anxious-preoccupied attachment thing), so it was easy to remember.
Is that a prediction about how one’s default “forget painful stuff” mechanisms work, or have you previously made a list and also ended up ignoring it? You’ve written elsewhere about conquering a lot of emotional bugs in the past year, and I’d be interested to know what you did to keep those bugs in mind and not forget about them.
I have forgotten about important emotional bugs before, and have seen other people literally forget the topic of the conversation when it turns to a sufficiently thorny emotional bug.
The thing that usually happens to my lists is that they feel wrong and I have to regenerate them from scratch constantly; they’re like Focusing labels that expire and aren’t quite right anymore.
The past year I was dealing with what felt to me like approximately one very large bug (roughly an anxious-preoccupied attachment thing), so it was easy to remember.