I don’t make eye contact while speaking but fix people while in silence. Were there people like me? Did they managed to reverse this? The way I feel inside is more like I can’t think both about the face of someone and what I am saying at once, too many things to keep track of.
This can be quite a bad thing, since a person’s face often tells you whether what you’re saying is landing for them or whether you need to elaborate on certain points (unless they have a people pleaser complex, in which case they’ll just nod and smile always even when they’re confused and offended on the inside lmao). The worst I’ve seen it was this discussion with Avi Loeb where he was lecturing someone who he had a disagreement with and he actually closed his eyes while he was talking and although I’m sure it wasn’t fully self-aware about it, it was very arrogant. He was not talking to that person; he must waste a lot of time, in reckonings, retreading old ground without making progress towards reconciliation.
I don’t make eye contact while speaking but fix people while in silence. Were there people like me? Did they managed to reverse this? The way I feel inside is more like I can’t think both about the face of someone and what I am saying at once, too many things to keep track of.
Yeah for many people it was hard to both make eye contact and think at the same time. Some of them told me that this changed what they spoke about.
Personally I have a very hard time recalling the past or thinking very logically while making eye contact
This can be quite a bad thing, since a person’s face often tells you whether what you’re saying is landing for them or whether you need to elaborate on certain points (unless they have a people pleaser complex, in which case they’ll just nod and smile always even when they’re confused and offended on the inside lmao). The worst I’ve seen it was this discussion with Avi Loeb where he was lecturing someone who he had a disagreement with and he actually closed his eyes while he was talking and although I’m sure it wasn’t fully self-aware about it, it was very arrogant. He was not talking to that person; he must waste a lot of time, in reckonings, retreading old ground without making progress towards reconciliation.