Thanks for the post. Your intuition as someone who has observed lots of similar arguments and the people involved in them seems like it should be worth something.
Personally as a non-involved party following this drama the thing I updated the most about so far was the emotional harm apparently done by Ben’s original post. Kat’s descriptions of how stressed out it made her were very striking and unexpected to me. Your post corroborates that it’s common to take extreme emotional damage from accusations like this.
I am sure that LW has other people like me who are natural psychological outliers on “low emotional affect” or maybe “low agreeableness” who wouldn’t necessarily intuit that it would be a super big deal for someone to publish a big public post accusing you of being an asshole. Now I understand that it’s a bigger deal than I thought, and I am more open to norms that are more subtle than “honestly write whatever you think.”
Thanks for the post. Your intuition as someone who has observed lots of similar arguments and the people involved in them seems like it should be worth something.
Personally as a non-involved party following this drama the thing I updated the most about so far was the emotional harm apparently done by Ben’s original post. Kat’s descriptions of how stressed out it made her were very striking and unexpected to me. Your post corroborates that it’s common to take extreme emotional damage from accusations like this.
I am sure that LW has other people like me who are natural psychological outliers on “low emotional affect” or maybe “low agreeableness” who wouldn’t necessarily intuit that it would be a super big deal for someone to publish a big public post accusing you of being an asshole. Now I understand that it’s a bigger deal than I thought, and I am more open to norms that are more subtle than “honestly write whatever you think.”