First, thank you for writing the post so fully and readably—it is really impressive! And I wish you would go to do this, in whatever way you would decide upon. But even if I thought full well the setup was safe (which I do) and the results were exactly as intended, in the most useful and generally good way, I wouldn’t join.
Because I think that when people become parents, they suddenly find themselves in a world that is much more uncertain. You can’t reliably say that you will sleep through the night, for example, even when the kid mostly does. And this is already hard enough to get used to—I know from experience—and it is also hard to begin anew (though this might be less so for men.) Imagine having actually trained yourself to be 100% in control of what you do, or even letting other people know that you are such kind of person. It’s just not robust.
First, thank you for writing the post so fully and readably—it is really impressive! And I wish you would go to do this, in whatever way you would decide upon. But even if I thought full well the setup was safe (which I do) and the results were exactly as intended, in the most useful and generally good way, I wouldn’t join.
Because I think that when people become parents, they suddenly find themselves in a world that is much more uncertain. You can’t reliably say that you will sleep through the night, for example, even when the kid mostly does. And this is already hard enough to get used to—I know from experience—and it is also hard to begin anew (though this might be less so for men.) Imagine having actually trained yourself to be 100% in control of what you do, or even letting other people know that you are such kind of person. It’s just not robust.
Thanks for the comment. This is unique among perspectives given so far, and I liked seeing it a lot.