This reminds me of the “The Toxoplasma of Rage” post by SSC: https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/12/17/the-toxoplasma-of-rage/
The question of “why do the left play into violent confrontation, even though it’s suboptimal from their perspective” is another version of the central question discussed in the article.
On the exactly the same phenomenon, but from a different perspective—C. S. Lewis in The Great Divorce goes to explain the Christian Hell as the place that people are stuck in because they choose to wallow in despair/grief/anger/victimhood, instead of just forgiving and letting go.
For example, he talks about a mother that lost her child, and is now stuck on anger of this child being unfairly treated by the word/God. The crucial fact is that she is indulging in that anger as a way of signalling her own self-rightioussness, not for any productive purpose.
Quite interesting, how all these different worldviews converge on that one :)