An acknowledgement that
a) Narcissism may not apply to children b) there’s other ways to interpret the text than the one you presenting. c) you’re not presenting text that runs contrary to your theory d) that there are other causes for a person and a parent not to respect their children than narcissism
Many human children start their lives being incredibly self-centered. One element of the process of maturation is tempering that. Harry starts off being pretty arrogant, but quickly, thanks to Quirrell, learns to lose. He genuinely cares about people, not so their reflection shines on him, but for their own sake. That’s anti-narcisistic.
Most of your examples have many anti-examples that simply show that Harry is sometimes clueless about “people stuff” and is an eleven year old boy.
Petunia isn’t a narcissist. She genuinely cares about her son. Several times you conflate the wishes of both parents or of Michael and assign them to Petunia alone.
To keep this on track with Less Wrong’s stated goals, my permeability to flour reference may not have been the most accurate reference. But you need to define “narcissist” first and then stand by that definition even if the text doesn’t support Harry and Petunia doing it.
I’m not going to re-read the whole thread to see if you’re actually coming up with justifications to support you argument after the fact. But it does feel like you’re not going to be convinced your theory is wrong, no matter what evidence is presented.
Ask yourself this: What evidence from the text would it take to change your mind?
Two, you’re also falling into the arguments/soldiers problem. You’re unwilling to concede your theory has even the tiniest weakness...even when the author of the text himself says your theory is wrong.
What you really want to do is:
1) Refine the qualities of narcissism. Your 13 qualities have a lot of overlap. There’s maybe 5 unique qualities there. Let’s shorten to 3: Grandiose sense of self-importance. Becomes furious if criticized Does not recognize the feelings of others
2) Decide what proportion of behavior needs to be for a person to be consider narcissist. 70/30? 90/10?
3) Pick 5 characters, including Harry and assign them a status of Narcissist / Not narcissist.
4) Ask 3 people for each category to read HPMOR and find examples of this characters being a)grandiose or humble b) responds to criticism with anger or acceptance c) empathizes or not
5) With blinding, tally up the results and compare to your ratio of N / not N behaviors for each character then see how the results compare to your predictions.
You don’t present a particularly compelling definition of this thing you’re calling the internet. It could be equally applied to a close knit society.
Also: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Machine_Stops