Two thoughts:
This explains a lot about how different your approach should be when meeting women in different places. What you do has to be different in a bar, at a professional conference, or at a party where you are best friends with the host. What is perfectly normal in a bar is overkill at the party.
You can get away with saying much more controversial things among people who know you well. Eg. You can much more easily talk about possible average genetic differences in IQ with people who know you’re not a racist than you can among people who don’t know you from squat.
Also, think of your romantic relationships. You can get away with a lot less “I’m a high value male” signalling once she knows you really are who you present yourself as.