What I wish you meant by this: ”...so of course we’re warming up the banhammer now!”
What you seem by this: ”...so we won’t be doing a thing to make this a space any less toxic for an inexplicably underrepresented majority.”
I was really hoping this would be a come-for-the-fan-fiction-stay-for-the-awesome-forum situation, but if this community’s priorities are accurately reflected (and please, please do prove me wrong) by the response “Come back and ask us to respect your humanity once everyone else has gotten their rocks off,” then that is...exceedingly disappointing.
So from evidence that men, on average, report/perform greater suffering from lack of sex, you can conclude that a specific woman has never felt as much sexual frustration as a specific man, or indeed, anything similar enough to allow for empathy? That seems far from airtight.
It’s also worth noting that there are a great many men who seek physical and emotional intimacy from other men. So if your hypothesis is that men objectify their potential partners solely because their intimacy is temporarily unavailable, then a small but consistent portion of the partner-as-object-to-be-won rhetoric would be about men, which I have not observed.