Here is some commentary on my views on this subject, framed with a bit of literary analysis. (This was inspired by a semi-recent rereading of a pair of Alexander Wales stories, namely Shadows of the Limelight and The Metropolitan Man. NOTE: This comment contains spoilers… well, a spoiler… but only a very mild and general one.)
The key point is: Superman is evil.
For anyone who hasn’t read The Metropolitan Man: it’s a Superman fanfic, wherein Superman is revealed to be evil. That is: it’s not an AU fic where Superman, instead of being good like he normally is, is instead evil; rather, it’s just the regular Superman, but the story shows (or so I claim! it’s not made explicit, of course) that regular Superman is evil.
Now, this is hardly a novel insight, but the trick is articulating just what the nature of that evil is; but I’ve finally managed to do so, to my own satisfaction. The problem with Superman (as depicted in The Metropolitan Man—and also, of course, many, many canon Superman stories) is the chain of reasoning that goes:
“With great power comes great responsibility” → “With great responsibility comes great moral leeway”
In other words, you are responsible for the lives of many people, the fate of a nation/planet/whatever, or some other great and important thing; therefore you cannot be expected to scrupulously follow rules that normal people are held to, and are allowed to break the law, to lie, to imprison innocents, or whatever else.
But why do you have that great responsibility? Well, because you have great power, so you were obligated to take on that responsibility.
But then result of this is: “With great power comes great moral leeway”.
Which is just “might makes right”.
So, through this concept of moral obligation, you have reasoned yourself into being exempt from the rules because you’re very powerful; and of course, being powerful, you also can’t have those rules enforced upon you—very convenient!
That’s Superman in a nutshell. (Also many other superheroes, but Superman is the most famous example.)
The correct solution (morally speaking) is, of course, to deny the first step: no, with great power does not come great responsibility—except the responsibility of being careful not to use that power to do harm. Anything other than that, over and above any responsibilities that any person has, is strictly supererogatory.
And of course one does not have to be Superman to encounter this problem. Whenever you gain power, there is a very great temptation to use this power; and it is a dangerous delusion, to think that the only problematic temptation is the temptation to use your power to aggrandize or enrich yourself directly. The temptation to use your power to benefit others is even more perilous.
So what is to be done?
If you find yourself with power, do not begin by thinking “how can I use this to do good”. Think first:
How can I ensure that I do not use this to do harm?
How can I share this power, so that I am not the only one who has it? Can I set things up so that everyone has it?
Does anyone need to have this power? Can I set things up so that nobody has it?
(Note that these are not numbered—I am not saying that you need to think of these things in that order. Think of them all, simultaneously.)
(There are also auxiliary questions, like “If someone whom I didn’t trust at all were to gain this power, what would I wish they’d do with it?”, and “Suppose that I become crazy and/or evil tomorrow; what should I do to prevent bad-future-me from abusing this power?”. Note that if the above-listed primary questions are addressed effectively, these auxiliary questions also disappear almost entirely.)
(The astute reader may notice parallels between the above perspective and certain dichotomies among different types of economic systems, approaches to the construction of complex abstract systems, etc.)
But being told exactly what to do is much more restrictive than just being told what not to do. So if you make the above claim, and also make the claim that your way is more pleasant and less restrictive, then Bob is right—there is definitely some trick being played here.