Regarding cloning, we have very good reason to think that good-enough memory erasure is possible, because this sort of thing happens in reality—we do forget things, and we forget all events after some traumas. Moreover, there are plausible paths to creating a suitable drug. For example, it could be that newly-created memories in the hippocampus are stored in molecular structures that do not have various side-chains that accumulate with time, so a drug that just destroyed the molecules without these side-chains would erase recent memories, but not older ones. Such a drug could very well exist even if consciousness has a quantum aspect to it that would rule out duplication.
I don’t see how your argument that the first person “me” perspective renders probability statements “invalid” can apply to Sleeping Beauty problems without also rendering invalid all uses of probability in practice. When deciding whether or not to undergo some medical procedure, for example, all the information I have about its safety and efficacy is of “third-person” form. So it doesn’t apply to me? That can’t be right.
It also can’t be right that Beauty has “no rational way of deciding to eat the cookie or not”. The experiment iis only slightly fantastical, requiring a memory erasing drug that could well be invented tomorrow, without that being surprising. If your theory of rationality can’t handle this situation, there is something seriously wrong with it.
Sleeping Beauty with cookies is an almost-realistic situation. I could easily create an analogous situation that is fully realistic (e.g., by modifying my Sailor’s Child problem). Beauty will decide somehow whether or not to eat a cookie. If Beauty has no rational basis for making her decision, then I think she has no rational basis for making any decision. Denial of the existence of rationality is of course a possible position to take, but it’s a position that by its nature is one that it is not profitable to try to discuss rationally.