Very interesting! You’ve captured a big reason why I do not myself participate much in the EA/Rationalist community, despite being a SSC addict. Much of the meetups seem to be around conversation, and I grow anxious in conversation-only settings. I want to *do*, and yes, sometimes that means I *do* the non-optimal thing, because I simply must express my doing energy somehow. If more meetups had promises of actions (as major as hackathons or as minor as results documentation), I might find myself participating more in the community.
Alternatively, I could learn to be comfortable with the lack of action in settings. It would be a useful skill to allow me more time to reflect before taking action. I would like to grow that skill, but at the same time, my orientation towards action is very much a part of me, so I appreciate settings where that orientation can be utilized and beneficial.
While I was reading your post originally, I assumed surrogacy referred to another woman receiving an implantation of a fertilized egg from the intended parents, and then carrying that to term.
So I just researched it, and apparently there are two types, which is why we’re confused here: “Traditional surrogacy” and “Gestational surrogacy”: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Surrogacy#Traditional_surrogacy
Yes, it would help to define which type you refer to, as I find them very different ethically. (Or at least, emotionally, as a woman).