But why does it matter what they think about it for the short time before it happens, compared to the enjoyment of it long after?
So you positively value “eating ice cream” and negatively value “having eaten ice cream”—I can relate. What if the change, instead of making you dislike ice cream and like veggies, made you dislike fitness and enjoy sugar crashes? The only real difference I can see is that the first increases your expected lifespan and so increases the overall utility. They both resolve the conflict and make you happy, though, so aren’t they both better than what you have now?
I guess you’re right. It’s the difference between “what I expect” and “what I want”.
I can’t figure out an answer to any of those questions without having a way to decide which utility function is better. This seems to be a problem, because I don’t see how it’s even possible.