jkadlubo

• jkadluboMar 1, 2015, 10:13 AM

  3 points

  in reply to: TsviBT’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  No. He just learned to dispell Transfiguration without a wand when he dispelled the one on Hermione’s body.

• jkadluboMar 1, 2015, 10:10 AM

  1 point

  in reply to: Izeinwinter’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  He would tell he can do it, but not necessarily how it works. Of course knowing that problem is solvable facilitates solution, but since we know the solution, we also know it would take time for Voldemort to find and use it.

  So it is buffing, but with a time delay. That’s why I think it’s the simplest solution. Quirrelmort did start reading a book on physics, but is certainly far from understanding it deeply enough to do partial transfiguration.

  This move would simply buy Harry time. It won’t solve the problem of Voldemort threatening the world, but will keep Harry alive, which is the objective of this quest.

  There is tonnes of things Harry could infer and then tell him

  OK, then use that to buy Harry’s own life. My idea was more about Harry buying his own life than telling about partial transfiguration.

• jkadluboMar 1, 2015, 7:13 AM

  1 point

  in reply to: TobyBartels’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  About Sirius we only have the story from “Skeptical Wizard” (about Weasleys’ rat) and some mentions in the Azkaban—nothing to suggest he was good.

• jkadluboMar 1, 2015, 7:10 AM

  4 points

  in reply to: [deleted]’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  He didn’t put them on his bones; remeber the part, where resurected Voldemort takes some sticks from Quirrell, attatches them to himself and tests flying? Voldemort would likely enchant his own bones later, but right now he has sticks attached to his limbs.

• jkadluboFeb 28, 2015, 9:05 PM

  2 points

  in reply to: Izeinwinter’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  Could he tell Voldemort aout partial transfiguration and request his own life spared?

• jkadluboFeb 28, 2015, 9:01 PM

  2 points

  in reply to: yaeiou’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  BUT The students were issued with portkeys in the form of toe rings and Harry got rid of his explicitly.

• jkadluboFeb 28, 2015, 8:57 PM

  4 points

  in reply to: solipsist’s comment on: Harry Pot­ter and the Meth­ods of Ra­tion­al­ity dis­cus­sion thread, Fe­bru­ary 2015, chap­ter 113

  I would say no to the Flamingo, but yes to any object ever mentioned in the story (e.g. car engine that he tried to use in the first battle), after all, Harry prepared his pouch for anything and everything that he could fathom.

• jkadluboFeb 20, 2015, 7:32 AM

  4 points

  in reply to: MalcolmOcean’s comment on: An­nounc­ing the Com­plice Less Wrong Study Hall

  And people stopped stating the beginning and expected end of a pomodoro on chat. Almost everybody uses Complice’s pomodoro timer which just rings the beginning of a pomodoro and this might be slightly confusing for people without the timer when the chat suddenly goes all quiet for no apparent reason.

• jkadluboJan 12, 2015, 5:45 PM

  2 points

  on: Who are your fa­vorite “hid­den ra­tio­nal­ists”?

  John Medina’s “Brain Rules”. I also recommend/​give all future* parents his “Brain Rules for Baby”. I have not yet had time to read his other works, but these two make me want to.

  *Also to parents of small kids. And to anyone thinking about having children.

• jkadluboDec 25, 2014, 5:25 PM

  11 points

  on: 2015 New Years Re­s­olu­tion Thread

  A few years ago I flossed for a whole January, but then became complacent and stopped. It might have been an altogether too hard NYR for me, so this year I have one good idea and a firm intent to keep it:

  • If somebody tells me I should check something with a doctor, I will.

  I have a few reasons for this. I was raised to believe that if I visit a doctor more than once a year, I must be a hypochondriac. So I just didn’t. Plus, since I almost never see any doctors, I don’t really know what is worrisome and what is normal, I just used to ignore anything happening with my body. This is also an excercise in trust. I know I can’t really trust myself in the matter of my own health, so I will consciously put trust in other people intead of waving away their good advice.

• jkadluboDec 23, 2014, 1:37 PM

  10 points

  in reply to: Lumifer’s comment on: How to deal with Santa Claus?

  You could raise your kids entirely in atheism and forget about Christmas altogether.

  Let me point out that not having a holiday when everyone around you does (...) is not going to make your kids happy.

  Poland is one of very few countries in the world, where you can be sentenced to prison for hurting somebody’s religious feelings. Of course, only catholic religious feelings count. It’s a country where even atheists baptize their children, because everybody does so. My son is the first child in the history of his school to not attend religion classes (and those are not religion classes, those are catholicism classes, and they are organized by the Church, so the teachers are not really subordinates of the headmasters).

  Until we move out of the country, there is no way to avoid Christmas. This is of course my particular situation, but I can easily imagine more people in similar “trouble”.

• jkadluboDec 23, 2014, 1:29 PM

  2 points

  in reply to: gwillen’s comment on: How to deal with Santa Claus?

  When I told my first family that we’re not going to baptise our son and we’ll raise him atheist (and implicated the same for any future children), my father asked: then how will you teach him morals, what is good and bad? Only religion can do that!

• jkadluboDec 23, 2014, 1:22 PM

  5 points

  in reply to: Shmi’s comment on: How to deal with Santa Claus?

  As much as I agree with the second part of your comment, I think that mentioning the small stuff is important. I know this topic is quite trivial compared to the AI topics that have overtaken LW, but we don’t have to change young people into critical thinkers when they reach puberty, we can work from the very first years. And on LW there is next to nothing about parenting.

• jkadluboDec 23, 2014, 1:18 PM

  2 points

  in reply to: passive_fist’s comment on: How to deal with Santa Claus?

  How would you phrase that truth to a 2-year old?

• jkadluboDec 22, 2014, 7:21 PM

  7 points

  in reply to: JoshuaZ’s comment on: How to deal with Santa Claus?

  I don’t want her to lie or believe falsehoods, but I cannot just say “it’s a lie most adults tell children” (yet). Aside from her ability to understand such a complicated statement, there are other, very catholic, children in the family. Children, who got two cardboard versions of the Bible for their second birthday (because the first one was still too advanced). I think the “fairy-tale of Claus” does this quite well.

  The thing is all of the other takes on this topic start from a point, when a child (usually 5-9 years old) asks “Is Santa real?” Nobody yet asked “how to raise my child Santa-free?” What to say, when a two-year-old, who just noticed that there is this character on TV asks “will he come to me, too?” A toddler may not yet understand the concept of lie, of pretending, of things not physically existing. (I think I’ll just add this part to the post)

How to deal with Santa Claus?

• jkadluboDec 9, 2014, 9:50 AM

  0 points

  in reply to: pjeby’s comment on: Where is the line be­tween be­ing a good child and tak­ing care of one­self?

  you’ll have a real choice about whether to continue relating to them or not. You won’t be coming from a place of neediness and shame, and will be able to set better boundaries. Nobody can predict exactly what form your relationship with them will take. You may find that you can love them for who they are, or you may find that you don’t actually enjoy their company and choose not to spend time with them. You may find that you can set effective boundaries. Who knows?

  I’ll save this for future reference.

  Right now I feel cutting myself from my parents from my perspective would be a punishment for them (and I know mother would not care, so it would be in vain—yesterday we were in the same room and as an experiment I tried to not talk first but look available to conversation. She didn’t even say “hello” or “I didn’t expect you here, why did you come?”). I have too much grudge yet to have a real choice.

• jkadluboDec 6, 2014, 2:27 PM

  10 points

  in reply to: pjeby’s comment on: Where is the line be­tween be­ing a good child and tak­ing care of one­self?

  This reply made my cry more than any other. But I know this kind of crying—it happens when somebody opens my eyes to a different perspective, so it’s good crying.

  My hope was mostly broken, but I kept trying to fix it. Popular psychology makes people believe that they can make almost any relationship work. Yesterday evening I felt lighter. I could start thinking “I can let go of trying now.”

  A quick way to begin poking holes in this belief is to imagine that you have done everything perfectly to their desire, been the exact person they wanted you to be… and then ask that same part of your brain, “What would happen then?”

  I would be like my sister and have what she has. She can pull off almost any kind of abstruse plan which involves parents doing something for her or giving her money. I resent that ability of her and yet would like to be able to do almost the same. My mind has trouble going further, ponder what if I was better than her. I don’t really believe your version, but in fact I can remember one situation exactly like that. When I was better and what happened next. I got a 5 on a biology test (scale 1-6, where 1 is fail, 6 is outstanding), she got a 4. Normally only people with grades lower than 3 can retake a test, but parents made her retake the test and me teach her. She got a 5+ on the retake (it’s also frowned upon when getting a 6 is possible on a retake, since the second test should be a chance to pass only for those kids who failed), they were satistifed and I was bitter.

  The right answer is that they would not pay attention to me being good enough. They would concentrate on her being worse than me. And try to make me help her be at least as good as me (and also push her). Since being exactly the same is not really possible, she would end up being better than me, again. And I would be even more disappointed.

  I doubt myself a lot. You and others, who say “this relationship is unfixable” really say “you were right, you only doubted too much.”

• jkadluboDec 6, 2014, 1:50 PM

  0 points

  in reply to: MathiasZaman’s comment on: Where is the line be­tween be­ing a good child and tak­ing care of one­self?

  Now this is part is surprisingly relevant to me.

  One version of family history says I was an accident (so there was a choice: should they bother with abortion or keep the baby and marry). The other version (never spoken aloud) says she used me to marry my father. I always wanted to believe the first one (and so oblige her to love me since she chose me), but the other made somehow deeper sense.

• jkadluboDec 5, 2014, 1:08 PM

  7 points

  in reply to: Shmi’s comment on: Where is the line be­tween be­ing a good child and tak­ing care of one­self?

  Thank you, I really needed that spelled out.

  Fun fact about the questionare: when I excluded all “I don’t know” and “sometimes” answers—I got “yes” exactly 80%.