Duncan Sabien (Deactivated)

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Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 28 May 2024 2:30 UTC
4 points
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in reply to: cousin_it’s comment on: Review: Conor Moreton’s “Civilization & Cooperation”
It inspired me to add a line near the end, which I think should’ve been there in the original (so thank you):
There were two full chapters on slavery and conscription and indentured servitude, castes and patriarchy and institutional bigotry—all the various ways in which societies incorporate people into their machinery without respecting their dealbreakers, keeping them captive in roles they would not freely choose.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 27 May 2024 15:20 UTC
2 points
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in reply to: cousin_it’s comment on: Review: Conor Moreton’s “Civilization & Cooperation”
Er, I’m not sure why I would need a stronger statement, since the essay is describing civilization, which includes very coercive systems.
(There’s an interesting sort of rhyme here with, like. It seems to me that your first comment implies a goal of entertainingness, when the essay was not written to be entertaining (so much as informative/hopefully enlightening; entertainment helps to achieve that but isn’t the primary thing to optimize for). And similarly, these later comments seem to imply a goal of describing how to achieve a good civilization, when the essay is simply trying to describe what civilization is, in practice (with the idea being that once you know what it’s made of, perhaps you’ll be more able to make it good). Your comments seem to me to want to dock points for missing targets that aren’t being aimed for in the first place.)

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 27 May 2024 14:18 UTC
2 points
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in reply to: cousin_it’s comment on: Review: Conor Moreton’s “Civilization & Cooperation”
Mmm, I don’t think that anything that I’ve said in the essay contradicts that. Like, I think you have leapt to a stronger conclusion about what I believe in than what I actually believe.
(e.g. I don’t think the essay makes any claim resembling “the whole system of land ownership and rent was designed with majority interests in mind.” That’s sort of a strawman, in the sense that it’s much easier to knock down than what the essay actually says.)

There’s a big difference between “this system had no dealbreakers”/”this system was designed such that every participant was getting an epsilon more from participation than they expected from breaking its rules” and “this was designed to actively please the most people.”

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 26 May 2024 21:37 UTC
12 points
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in reply to: cousin_it’s comment on: Review: Conor Moreton’s “Civilization & Cooperation”
Seems much more deceptive and dark-artsy to me; I disagree that’s “the cool way” (or if it is the cool way in some objective sense, those are the cool kids I’m avoiding like the plague). I’m also not into the idea of effortfully creating very wrong versions of views so that I can then have fun knocking them down.
The actual historical reason it’s structured this way is not because I was trying to optimize for coolness or convincingness or w/e but rather that I tried for three years to produce the fully-fledged sequence and it kept not happening and I decided it was better to get some kind of abbreviated version of the content out (rather than nothing) and this was the format that ended up allowing me to write it at all.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 10 Jan 2024 1:24 UTC
6 points
on: Benign Boundary Violations
I think this post was good as something like a first pass.
There’s a large and multi-armed dynamic in modern Western liberal society that is a kind of freezing-in-place, as more and more moral weight gets attached to whether or not one is consciously avoiding harm in more and more ways.
For the most part, this is a positive process (and it’s at the very least well-intentioned). But it’s not as strategic as it could be, and substantially less baby could be thrown out with the bathwater.
This was an attempt to gesture at some baby that, I think, is being thrown out with the bathwater. I think it succeeded, in that a lot of people were like “huh! Wow! Never realized that someone might like X, and I agree that if you like X it would be good if there were ways for you to get it, so long as those who don’t like X can continue avoiding X.”
But I don’t think that it did much more than make some people go “huh.” I don’t see many other people talking more about which socially-frowned-upon things are actually okay for them personally, and thus normalizing them, and thus setting up a counterpressure against boundary creep. I don’t see many people acknowledging, or doing anything with, the insight that (metaphorically) we shouldn’t ban sports just because some people have glass bones.
In particular, I would have liked to see, and hope to someday see in the future:
- Theorizing as to how a society could have smarter boundaries, rather than simply making the boundaries wider and wider each time it realizes that some people are still being harmed
- Direct phenomenological reports from people doing things like CoZE and exploring what happens when they tread near social boundaries vs. near personal boundaries
- More concrete suggestions from the people whose personal boundaries are already being violated under social norms (or just more reports from those people in general; the ones who spoke up below all got strong upvotes from me).
I think the essay small-f failed in that it was so reasonable that it maybe didn’t spark enough controversy? Or not controversy per-se, that’s not a thing to Goodhart on. But I think it didn’t leave enough of a sense of open dangling conversation to cause people to continue talking about it and write their own nearby posts, etc.
Which maybe they wouldn’t’ve anyway; maybe this just isn’t that interesting of a problem to most people. But I suspect that this is actually quite a large problem for quite a large number of people, and what’s actually going on is that I failed to connect these thoughts to [the thing that’s draining half of the light from their lives]. Among other things, this is an essay about the epidemic of touch-starvation that is rampant in our culture, and it didn’t manage to recruit any of the people who care about that, for instance.
I’m very glad I wrote it, I just wish it were … more.
What links here?
- Voting Results for the 2022 Review by Ben Pace (2 Feb 2024 20:34 UTC; 57 points)

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 22 Dec 2023 18:47 UTC
6 points
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on: The metaphor you want is “color blindness,” not “blind spot.”
This piece was reasonably well-appreciated (over 100 points) but I nevertheless think of it as one of my most underrated posts, given my sense of how important/crucial the insight is. For me personally, this is one of the largest epiphanies of the past decade, and I think this is easily among the top three most valuable bits of writing I did in 2022. It’s the number one essay I go out of my way to promote to the attention of people who already occasionally read my writing, given its usefulness and its relative obscurity.
If I had the chance to write this over again, I might possibly make it longer and more detailed? I’m torn/conflicted. I don’t like that short bits of writing tend to be taken less seriously than longer ones; I would prefer a world where the brief essays packed a punch commensurate with their value rather than their weight. But rather than railing against that dynamic, I think I would just … flesh this out, so as to give it more felt-sense seriousness.
I might, in such a rewrite, also focus more closely on the key point that blind spots don’t live in one spot—they tend to be pervasive, and the way in which they tend to be pervasive is an inability to distinguish between lots of different things. If you’re red-green colorblind and don’t know it, there are thousands of places where it feels like people are drawing completely meaningless and made-up distinctions that literally don’t exist; those two objects are literally the same color, what are you talking about? … and I see this same sort of blindness crop up in e.g. the writings of people who aren’t even aware that they’re typical minding, or the behavior of people who don’t even know that it’s possible to not care about monkey status games, or the update procedures of people who can’t tell the difference between a logically sound argument and rhetoric/demagoguery.
I think that increasing the general awareness of what a blind spot feels like, on the inside and what a blind spot looks like, from the outside would go a long way toward improving our ability to do collective rationality. It would improve our ability to wisely defer to one another. It would make it much easier to recognize what’s actually going on, in situations where one side thinks the other is making mountains out of molehills, and the other thinks the first is callous or disingenuous or motivated by antipathy. It’s a pattern whose shape appears all over the place, and recognizing that “blind spot” was a bad handle for it and “color blindness” was a less bad handle for it has been a huge boost for me, both in navigating my own blindnesses and in more quickly recognizing (and having more productive and constructive reactions to) the blindness of others.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 20 Dec 2023 4:39 UTC
110 points
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on: Here’s the exit.
I think this post is emblematic of the problem I have with most of Val’s writing: there are useful nuggets of insight here and there, but you’re meant to swallow them along with a metric ton of typical mind fallacy, projection, confirmation bias, and manipulative narrativemancy.
Elsewhere, Val has written words approximated by ~”I tried for years to fit my words into the shape the rationalists wanted me to, and now I’ve given up and I’m just going to speak my mind.”
This is what it sounds like when you are blind to an important distinction. Trying to hedge magic things that you do not grok, engaging in cargo culting. If it feels like tediously shuffling around words and phrases that all mean exactly the same thing, you’re missing the vast distances on the axis that you aren’t perceiving.
The core message of “hey, you might well be caught up in a false narrative that is doing emotional work for you via providing some sense of meaning or purpose and yanking you around by your panic systems, and recognizing that fact can allow you to do anything else” is a good one, and indeed it’s one that many LessWrongers need. It’s even the sort of message that needs some kind of shock along with it, to make readers go “oh shit, that might actually be me.”
But that message does not need to come along with a million little manipulations. That message isn’t improved by attempts to hypnotize the audience, or set up little narrative traps.
e.g. starting with “There’s a kind of game, here, and it’s rude to point out, and you’re not supposed to name it, but I’m going to.” <—I’m one of the cool ones who sees the Matrix! I’m brave and I’m gonna buck the rules! (Reminiscent of a right-wing radio host going “you get punished if you say X” and then going on to spend twenty minutes on X without being punished. It’s a cheap attempt to inflate the importance of the message and the messenger.)
e.g. “I really do respect the right for folk to keep playing it if they want” <—More delegitimization, more status moves. A strong implication along the lines of “the illusion that I, Val, have correctly identified is the only thing happening here.” Not even a token acknowledgement of the possibility that perhaps some of it is not this particular game; no thought given to the possibility that maybe Val is flawed in a way that is not true of all the other LWers. Like the Mythbusters leaping from “well, we couldn’t recreate it” to “therefore, it’s impossible and it never happened, myth BUSTED.”
(I’m really really really tired of the dynamic where someone notices that they’ve been making Mistake X for many years and then just presumes that everyone else is, too, and just blind to it in the same way that they themselves were. It especially rankles when they’re magnanimous about it.)
e.g. “You have to live in a kind of mental illusion to be in terror of the end of the world.” <—More projection, more typical minding, more ~”I’ve comprehended all of the gears here and there’s no way anything else could lead to appropriate terror of the end of the world. The mistake I made is the mistake everyone’s making (but don’t worry, I’m here to guide you out with my superior wisdom, being as I am ahead of you on this one.” See also the actual quote “for what it’s worth, as someone who turned off the game and has reworked his body’s use of power quite a lot, it’s pretty obvious to me that this isn’t how it works,” which, like basically everything else here, is conspicuously missing a pretty damn important for me. The idea that other people might be doing something other than what Val comprehends seems literally not to occur to him.
e.g. “I mean this with respect and admiration. It’s very skillful. Eliezer has incredible mastery in how he weaves terror and insight together.” <—Look! See how I’m above it all, and in a position to evaluate what’s going on? Pay no attention to the fact that this incidentally raises my apparent status, btw.
e.g. “In case that was too opaque for you just yet, I basically just said ‘Your thoughts will do what they can to distract you from your true underlying fear.’ … This is slow work. Unfortunately your ‘drug’ supply is internal, so getting sober is quite a trick.” <—If your experience doesn’t match my predictions, it’s because you’re unskillful, and making [mistake]...but don’t worry, with my “yet” I will subtly imply that if you just keep on listening to my voice, you will eventually see the light. Pay no attention to the fully general counterevidence-dismissing system I’m setting up.
Again, it’s a shame, because bits like “If your body’s emergency mobilization systems are running in response to an issue, but your survival doesn’t actually depend on actions on a timescale of minutes, then you are not perceiving reality accurately” are well worth considering. But the essay sort of forces you to step into Val’s (broken, self-serving, overconfident) frame in order to catch those nuggets. And, among readers who are consciously wise or unconsciously allergic to the sort of manipulation he’s trying to pull, many of them will simply bounce off the thing entirely, and not catch those useful nuggets.
It didn’t have to be this way. It didn’t have to be arrogant and project-y and author-elevating and oh-so-cynical-and-aloof. There’s another version of this essay out there in possibility space that contains all of the good insights and none of the poison.
But that’s not what we got. Instead, we got a thing that (it seems to me (though I could be wrong)) had the net effect of marginally shifting LW’s discourse in the wrong direction, by virtue of being a popular performance piece wrapped around an actually useful insight or two. It normalizes a kind of sloppy failure-to-be-careful-and-clear that is antithetical to the mission of becoming less wrong. I think this essay lowered the quality of thinking on the site, even as it performed the genuinely useful service of opening some eyes to the problem Val has identified.
(Because no, of course Val was not alone in this issue, it really is a problem that affects Lots Of Humans, it’s just not the only thing going on. Some humans really do just … not have those particular flaws. When you’re colorblind, you can’t see that there are colors that you can’t see, and so it’s hard to account for them, especially if you’re not even bothering to try.)
What links here?
- Voting Results for the 2022 Review by Ben Pace (2 Feb 2024 20:34 UTC; 57 points)
- habryka's comment on The LessWrong 2022 Review: Review Phase by RobertM (10 Jan 2024 22:04 UTC; 17 points)

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 26 Nov 2023 0:07 UTC
5 points
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in reply to: Donald Hobson’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
Already footnoted.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 20 Nov 2023 14:58 UTC
6 points
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in reply to: Viliam’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
I’m for it.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 20 Nov 2023 3:47 UTC
7 points
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in reply to: Seth Herd’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
I haven’t made up my mind about whether to ask that people not cross-post. Until such time as I explicitly do (it would be a visible and hard-to-miss request, such as an author’s note in several consecutive essays), please consider cross-posting fine.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 20 Nov 2023 3:42 UTC
3 points
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in reply to: Ben Pace’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
1 seems both true and obvious to me.
2 seems both true and obvious to me (and we have a rich historical record of many of those people being vindicated as moral development proceeded apace).
3 seems true and correct to me as well.
Our divergence is after 3, in the rough model. I think that it is waaaaaaay unlikely that a 90% bucket is the right size. I think that 50+% of people covertly break at least 1 widespread norm, and even if someone talks me out of it I do not expect them to talk me even half of the distance down to 8%.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 20 Nov 2023 3:38 UTC
5 points
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in reply to: Ben Pace’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
I think it depends a lot on the norm in question. Having been privileged (by virtue of being confidant to a lot of people from a lot of walks of life) to know about a LOT of harmless-in-my-estimation covert norm-breaking that the average person never gets a whiff of, I think that my money is on 2 being simply false.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 19 Nov 2023 22:36 UTC
7 points
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in reply to: Duncan Sabien (Deactivated)’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
Tagging @Ben Pace , @habryka , @Vaniver , @Raemon. Not as a request for input (I kind of don’t actually want any; I have little room left for being told how wrong and bad I am) but more because it feels like not-tagging is a little bit talking behind backs, or something. They can speak to their own perspective as they choose, or not, as they choose. I’m going to try to turn my attention away from this thread.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 19 Nov 2023 22:29 UTC
19 points
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in reply to: Seth Herd’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
I do not like this comment. The rest of my response below will be somewhat triggered.
EDIT: to be clear, I did not vote in any way on the above comment because it seems bad to do so from a state of triggeredness.
“Um,” Harry said. “You… don’t think very much of Dumbledore, I take it?”
“I thought...” said the old witch. “Well. Albus Dumbledore was a better wizard than I, a better person than I, in more ways than I can easily count. But the man had his faults.”
“Because, um. I mean. Dumbledore knew everything you just said. About my being young and how the Line works. You’re acting like you think Dumbledore was unaware of those facts, or just ignoring them, when he made his decision. It’s true that sometimes stupid people, like me, make decisions that crazy. But not Dumbledore. He was not mad.”
The framing of this comment sort of presupposes that I either don’t know about, or am inaccurately weighting:
- The value of having work concentrated in one findable place
- The value of having an active community to discuss important posts
...and dismissively implies that the problem is just “a few gadflies” and that I should “just not respond to trollish comments” and that’ll work fine and solve the problem.
It not only fails to pass my ITT, it doesn’t even seem to think there is an ITT that needs to be passed. The comment sees me doing something that seems drastic and bad, and rather than even considering “huh, maybe it’s worse than I thought/worse than I can see, from my perspective?” just leaps straight to brushing past and minimizing my concerns and implying that I’m making a silly mistake.
I am not.
I’m willing to concede that I might be, like, 15% catastrophizing (because it’s hard to assess such things accurately, from the inside), but I am not off by a factor of two. LessWrong is actually not a safe place for me.
I have tried extremely hard to make it work, multiple times, in multiple epochs of the site’s existence. I wrote an essay every day for thirty days during the 2.0 revival so there would always be fresh content for newcomers. I put out the entire CFAR handbook after rewriting it twice. I have done everything I could to nudge discourse and norms in a positive direction, even as other users actively and explicitly work to undermine them.
But this gets me, basically, nothing. LessWrong will frequently host overt and explicit libel of me, and it will be highly upvoted, and mods will do nothing for days on end. People will drag me through the mud and call for my suicide, and mods will do nothing. Highly upvoted unanswered and unaddressed stuff leaks from LessWrong out onto the broader internet, and it does substantial damage to my professional and personal relationships.
I beg for other people to step in, and they don’t. When Said was violating his own agreements with the LessWrong team, and doing more of the same bullshit he’d previously been told to stop, the mods did nothing, and did nothing, and did nothing, and finally I tried to push back myself, and they got equally angry with me. LessWrong is a place where victims get punished as much as, if not more than, their tormenters, when their patience finally breaks.
Most recently, I offered mild pushback, not even against the bullying I was receiving, but just against the plausibility of the bully’s claim that they could have failed to know how their words would be interpreted, and for that extremely mild pushback, a mod (who had not felt called to lift a finger in my defense against the bully) privately sent me over 500 words saying how even though I had complied with all their requests they were still grumpy at me for defending myself.
In the same week, when I made a comment that explicitly acknowledged itself as being posted in a fit of despair, another mod (who had also never been bothered to lift a finger in my defense) wrote 1100 words being mad at me and my complaint.
In the same week, a mod privately stated that all of my contributions to this site over the past nine years barely-if-at-all broke even. That everything I’ve contributed is basically canceled out by the headache of dealing with me. None of the other mods present in that conversation disagreed. LessWrong is explicitly ungrateful for any of the work I’ve put forward on the site’s behalf over the years.
(That hurt. I wept.)
So no: I don’t think I’m unaware of the costs to LW and its readership of me-not-being-here, and I don’t think I’m doing this lightly or cavalierly, and I don’t think that it’s just a few trollish comments that you should just ignore. All of that sounds, to me, like “let them eat cake.”
I’ve tried desperately, for years, to fix this and find a stable and sustainable equilibrium. Hearing, on my way out the door, when I’m exhausted beyond all measure and feeling deeply alienated and betrayed, “man, you should really consider sticking around” is upsetting.
If LessWrongers want me to stick around, they need to make that clear to the team, which has its own sense of the tradeoffs and has decided to balance those tradeoffs in a way that isn’t compatible with people like me being here.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 19 Nov 2023 4:42 UTC
11 points
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in reply to: michael_mjd’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
It’s less “you probably know a burglar” and more “successful burglaries are probably 10-100x more common than you would think, if you based your prediction solely on visible evidence.”
The two that seem most obvious to me: well-behaved psychopaths (i.e. people who have little or no empathetic response but who have learned to follow the social rules anyway, for the sake of headache avoidance) and non-practicing pedophiles (i.e. people who are attracted to children but are zero percent interested in raping anyone) probably really actually are quite common.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 18 Nov 2023 21:13 UTC
5 points
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in reply to: ChristianKl’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
No. I’m disagreeing with Bezzi’s claim to have never encountered any trans person and to have no trans people in their extended social network of hundreds or thousands. I don’t doubt their self-report re: visibly trans people, but they’re unjustified in the conclusion “there just aren’t invisible trans people around me in my town.”

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 18 Nov 2023 15:20 UTC
7 points
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in reply to: Bezzi’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
Are the base rates for actual transition so low that you can have thousands of people in your extended social circle and still never hear of one?
Yes.

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 18 Nov 2023 3:26 UTC
25 points
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in reply to: Ninety-Three’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
Ah, thanks for pointing this out. There’s an unstated assumption: you stumbled across some dark matter, that was basically hidden.
If you have a full-on psychotic break, you’re likely going to resemble the caricatured stereotype of a schizophrenic, and get noticed. But that’s not quite the thing I’m trying to gesture at in the OP.
If somebody overhears you talking to your voices in the shower, the voices you’ve been talking to for decades while remaining a high-functioning individual, they’re likely to leap to the conclusion that, since you have SYMPTOM of SCHIZOPHRENIA, you closely resemble the caricatured stereotype.
(This is the fearful swerve—people overupdating and dumping all of their other relevant experiential data of you, because the dark matter label overwhelms them and they forget that their new hypothesis needs to explain all the previous data too.)
The point being something like “if all that you have learned is that person has [trait], when you thought they didn’t, you might be in danger of jumping to an unjustified conclusion (and creating a tragedy, as a result).”

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 18 Nov 2023 0:33 UTC
18 points
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in reply to: Bezzi’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
(Also, people keep critically misunderstanding Scott’s point. Scott isn’t saying the conservatives don’t live around him. The whole point is that they do live around him and he does pass them on the street and he does go to the same grocery stores and gas stations. He doesn’t knowingly interact with them because of his social bubble, but they are there, just like trans folk are definitely around Bezzi a lot (though I totes grant Bezzi’s point that there aren’t many visibly transitioning ones). That’s what the phrase “dark matter” is being used to indicate, both in Scott’s post and in mine.)

Duncan Sabien (Deactivated) 18 Nov 2023 0:20 UTC
14 points
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in reply to: Bezzi’s comment on: Social Dark Matter
This thread continues to fail to distinguish between “visibly trans” and “non-visibly trans” people, which is depressing since it’s, y’know, the point.
Bezzi: you’re trying to say that you don’t know and have never met any trans people, and you keep doubling down on “I know this because I haven’t encountered any of the visible markers of trans people,” and I, uh. Encourage you to put 17 and 23 together?
Most trans folk are still not transitioning.
Another way of saying this: slow down and ask yourself “what do I think I know, and why do I think I know it?” and recognize that the evidence you have is systematically skewed, and you need to start with some other prior.
(If nothing else, this thread is useful as a real-time, object-level example of the subject matter under discussion.)