I think a lot of information is contained in the tone of the response, even if the words are just “fine.” Think of it as a conversational calibration. How much of a hurry is the other person in? Are you giving each other full attention? Are the emotions generally positive?
In business contexts, I like to answer positively, quickly, and without reciprocation. Sets the right tone.
At the risk of being uncharitable and the hope of being productive, I’m going to tell you my honest thoughts. If I met you in person, I would think you had had a bad childhood and are projecting that baggage onto animals. Your linked post confirms that. I wouldn’t engage with your intellectual arguments because I would think the hurtful emotional fragility you demonstrated at Thanksgiving indicates you are unable to have dispassionate discussions. I’m sorry you had a bad childhood. You’re allowed to cry about that without crying over every bird in the world. You’re not going to save every turkey in America from a day almost everyone sees as a celebration of gratitude and family. You might be able to save yourself if you worked through your issues around feeling “happy and safe.” I truly wish you the best.