Meant more in the context of ‘Nothing could have been done’ vs ‘Something could have but wasn’t’. Though yes, it may read as more condescending than intended.
While humans in general have indeed been thinking about death for ages, I doubt many of the less religious ones hold strong beliefs about what exactly it entails. Not to mention those who genuinely believe in an afterlife ought not to be as sad/hurt as those who don’t.
All this ultimately doesn’t diminish the pain of loss people feel, hence the whole ‘death is bad’ thing. Also, don’t confuse superficially similar things as being similar on a deeper level.
Thank you for these marvelous hacks, a few of these were unformed at the back of my head for a long time now.
I really like the Second Chances mentality, this line especially:
seems like a way to visualize/weaponize a consequentialist viewpoint that’s also agreeable to your selves under reflection.
The Split Selves especially crystallized some of the “cooperate with alt-time self-versions” mentality I’m trying to stay aware of.
I do have to say “use with caution”: Most of these are hard to execute or maintain consistently, and inevitable failures can end in a feeling of contract breach/lower self-trust/”fuck this shit” attitude and so on.
As such it’s important to, um, let go of failure? I mean maybe analyze what went wrong, but definitely skip the punishment and just go to “lesson learned, sins forgiven, lets do our best next time!”. At least that seems healthier than guilt/duty as motivation.