You did not explicitly state the goal of the advice, I think it would be interesting to distinguish between advice that is meant to increase your value to the company, and advice meant to increase your satisfaction with your work, especially when the two point in opposite directions.
For example it could be that “swallow[ing] your pride and us[ing] that garbage language you hate so much” is good for the company in some cases, but terrible for job satisfaction, making you depressed or angry every time you have to use that silly language/tool.
Planecrash (from Eliezer and Lintamande) seems highly relevant here: the hero, Keltam, tries to determine whether he is in a conspiracy or not. To do that he basically applies Bayes theorem to each new fact he encounters: “Is fact F more likely to happen if I am in a conspiracy or if I am not? hmm, fact F seems more likely to happen if I am not in a conspiracy, let’s update my prior a bit towards the ‘not in a conspiracy’ side”.
Planecrash is a great walkthrough on how to apply that kind of thinking to evaluate whether someone is bullshitting you or not, by keeping two alternative worlds that explain what they are saying, and updating the likelihoods as the discussion goes on.
Surely if you start putting probability on events such as “someone stole my phone”, and “that person then tailed me”, and multiply the probability of each new fact, it gets really unlikely really fast. Also relevant: Burdensome details