“Happened” is typically used when a result is undetermined or not strongly expected: “the die happened to come up a six.” It would sound weird to use it when a result is determined in advance: “the cup happened to fall once I let it go.”
Not “undetermined”, but the result of a process complex enough that it’s very difficult to predict the outcome or identify the root cause.
Does who what? Do families disown gay sons? Yes; my first boyfriend was kicked out by his family, and it seems a disproportionately large fraction of homeless youth are LGBT, with some large fraction of those claiming their parents forced them out.
I should be more clear: “Does it make sense for families to disown gay sons assuming that homosexuality improves group fitness” is a loaded question because it carries with it an assumption that disowning gay sons has evolutionary roots, or is ingrained behavior in humans, or is common. And I’m not convinced of any of these things. After all, my family didn’t disown me, and it seems like disowning gay sons is becoming increasingly uncommon.
You asked whether it made sense for families to disown gay sons. Does it make sense for families to disown children for being the wrong religion? Does it make sense for families to disown children for being pregnant?
Traditional behavior is so widely varied, though, that it’s difficult to draw any conclusions. Some traditional societies practiced polyandry, others, polygamy, and still others, levirate marriage, and avunculism, and so forth. Some traditional societies were accepting of homosexuality and even transgenderism. You say that cultures that prohibit childbirth die out, but many diverse cultures have a thriving tradition of monasticism (which is even worse for reproductive fitness than homosexuality!)
Would they? “Gay” is a recent category; traditional societies did not attempt to classify humans in that way and it only became popular when religious authorities attempted to criminalize it and early psychologists attempted to medicalize it. Men were not “gay” or “homosexual”, they were more or less inclined towards other men.