This is, imo, some pretty high-quality introspection; congrats. For what it’s worth, I feel like the conflation you describe between abuse and consensual play is not uncommon in the BDSM scene. In other words, I suspect a nonnegligable proportion of doms are in it for the reasons you describe, but don’t have the introspective rigour to call themselves on it.
This is, imo, some pretty high-quality introspection; congrats. For what it’s worth, I feel like the conflation you describe between abuse and consensual play is not uncommon in the BDSM scene. In other words, I suspect a nonnegligable proportion of doms are in it for the reasons you describe, but don’t have the introspective rigour to call themselves on it.