Thanks for this ! For various reasons I often get a bit obsessive about tending towards one side of a pattern in situations like these; I can end up feeling like I’m “betraying” my identity or my tribe if I enjoy something which is generally opposite from what I normally enjoy. The examples about Bob and spending time with one’s partner particularly stuck out to me. This is a really useful way for me to reframe how I think about things like this !
Thanks for this ! For various reasons I often get a bit obsessive about tending towards one side of a pattern in situations like these; I can end up feeling like I’m “betraying” my identity or my tribe if I enjoy something which is generally opposite from what I normally enjoy. The examples about Bob and spending time with one’s partner particularly stuck out to me. This is a really useful way for me to reframe how I think about things like this !