Nothing all day is rare, but 3*5minutes is very common. Working 40 hours a day would be easier if what I was doing was really interesting, but that hasn’t been the case in a little while.
I just can’t stay focused on doing one thing, although in my experience it’s more about getting sidelined than finding other problems to solve. I mean, can we all agree that looking something up on Wikipedia is a five-hour endeavour that starts with a work-related query and ends with reading something on industrialisation in the Two-Sicilies in the 1850s?
My constant thoughts seem a bit dull. OTOH, I literally have 190 tabs open in my browser as of now. And that’s after I removed some recently. But in practice I’m ‘only’ using five or ten of those at any given time and there are many I haven’t opened in weeks.
I just can’t stand corporate slang, rude people, and other such things, and have apparently much less ability to just accept that it’s a pain in the backside for everyone and let it slide anyway, compared to other people. But it mostly makes me sad rather than angry?
No patience. Well, everyone has that one, right? I’m not the only one who sees a dedicated circle of Hell just for fat chattering middle-aged ladies who take up all the space on the pavement and that you can’t overtake, am I?
Clutter: my room’s a mess, all the other rooms in the house are pristine, vacuumed with unusual ferocity by yours truly, who can’t stand the mess. It was notably more pronounced when I was depressed and didn’t want the extra drag on my nerves from the mess, however.
Task paralysis. I may or may not have that one: I postponed taking driver’s ed for about four years for no clear reason, I’m currently in the process of not doing some fairly important administrative thing that I could have started about a month ago, I’ve been wanting to make a fruit pie (a two-hour endeavour) for about two weeks, and still haven’t bought the fruit, etc., etc. It is extremely depressing.
Hyperfocus, in my experience of the last few years, has mostly been used as a time sink. No, it’s an understatement, it’s more like a time bathtub, time swimming-pool, time Mariana Trench. Very infuriating.
‘Seeing and hearing everything’ rings true, but oblivion even more. I am the world-class champion of not being aware what my siblings have been up to, for instance. But I wonder if it has to do with some broader ‘not bothering to go toward people and find out about them’ which is also what made me think of eg. schizoid disorder.
Guilt, regret, and shame: yeah, pretty sure I’ve met these guys quite often. Damn!
My therapist isn’t fully sold on ADHD, since I was more functional as a child, and have always managed to listen to my teachers without chatting or daydreaming even as much as my peers (which, imho, could be that jumping from one thing to another wasn’t so much of a problem then, even if I did as much of it as I do now. And being smart-ish allowed me not to work too long hours. As for not having trouble listening to teachers, that deteriorates massively if I’m not sitting in the front row with no one next to me. Overall, most of what I’ve written above sounds like it was already true then, although it was definitely much less of a problem and ADHD wasn’t something I felt the need to look into).
So, all that seems to suggest ADHD really is a possibility, right?
Yes could be ADHD, but I am not at a professional.
As for your therapist, that is not conclusive and by no means a sign the person does not have ADHD.
10 years before my diagnosis, my doctor had a feeling I might have ADHD, so he presented my file in conference and EVERYONE there reasoned as your therapist, so nothing further happened for 10 years.
Intelligence can and often does a lot of work that compensate for executive deficiency’s in people with ADHD.
Anyway, do the assessment by the book, be objective and hold off on knee jerk calls based on singular things like has a job, has an education.
I have what almost looks like a career with massive responsibility, academic education, married, kids, never in trouble with the law, no abuse of drugs or alcohol—traditional thinking says I cannot possible have ADHD, and yet the by the book assessment was crystal clear.
Well…
Nothing all day is rare, but 3*5minutes is very common. Working 40 hours a day would be easier if what I was doing was really interesting, but that hasn’t been the case in a little while.
I just can’t stay focused on doing one thing, although in my experience it’s more about getting sidelined than finding other problems to solve. I mean, can we all agree that looking something up on Wikipedia is a five-hour endeavour that starts with a work-related query and ends with reading something on industrialisation in the Two-Sicilies in the 1850s?
My constant thoughts seem a bit dull. OTOH, I literally have 190 tabs open in my browser as of now. And that’s after I removed some recently. But in practice I’m ‘only’ using five or ten of those at any given time and there are many I haven’t opened in weeks.
I just can’t stand corporate slang, rude people, and other such things, and have apparently much less ability to just accept that it’s a pain in the backside for everyone and let it slide anyway, compared to other people. But it mostly makes me sad rather than angry?
No patience. Well, everyone has that one, right? I’m not the only one who sees a dedicated circle of Hell just for fat chattering middle-aged ladies who take up all the space on the pavement and that you can’t overtake, am I?
Clutter: my room’s a mess, all the other rooms in the house are pristine, vacuumed with unusual ferocity by yours truly, who can’t stand the mess. It was notably more pronounced when I was depressed and didn’t want the extra drag on my nerves from the mess, however.
Task paralysis. I may or may not have that one: I postponed taking driver’s ed for about four years for no clear reason, I’m currently in the process of not doing some fairly important administrative thing that I could have started about a month ago, I’ve been wanting to make a fruit pie (a two-hour endeavour) for about two weeks, and still haven’t bought the fruit, etc., etc. It is extremely depressing.
Hyperfocus, in my experience of the last few years, has mostly been used as a time sink. No, it’s an understatement, it’s more like a time bathtub, time swimming-pool, time Mariana Trench. Very infuriating.
‘Seeing and hearing everything’ rings true, but oblivion even more. I am the world-class champion of not being aware what my siblings have been up to, for instance. But I wonder if it has to do with some broader ‘not bothering to go toward people and find out about them’ which is also what made me think of eg. schizoid disorder.
Guilt, regret, and shame: yeah, pretty sure I’ve met these guys quite often. Damn!
My therapist isn’t fully sold on ADHD, since I was more functional as a child, and have always managed to listen to my teachers without chatting or daydreaming even as much as my peers (which, imho, could be that jumping from one thing to another wasn’t so much of a problem then, even if I did as much of it as I do now. And being smart-ish allowed me not to work too long hours. As for not having trouble listening to teachers, that deteriorates massively if I’m not sitting in the front row with no one next to me. Overall, most of what I’ve written above sounds like it was already true then, although it was definitely much less of a problem and ADHD wasn’t something I felt the need to look into).
So, all that seems to suggest ADHD really is a possibility, right?
Yes could be ADHD, but I am not at a professional.
As for your therapist, that is not conclusive and by no means a sign the person does not have ADHD.
10 years before my diagnosis, my doctor had a feeling I might have ADHD, so he presented my file in conference and EVERYONE there reasoned as your therapist, so nothing further happened for 10 years.
Intelligence can and often does a lot of work that compensate for executive deficiency’s in people with ADHD.
Anyway, do the assessment by the book, be objective and hold off on knee jerk calls based on singular things like has a job, has an education.
I have what almost looks like a career with massive responsibility, academic education, married, kids, never in trouble with the law, no abuse of drugs or alcohol—traditional thinking says I cannot possible have ADHD, and yet the by the book assessment was crystal clear.