I suggest moving to a place where you-as-you-are will be more attractive to females. More specifically, China—it has a combination of features that make expats quite successful with the local women (or at least stack the deck in your favor):
it’s poor enough that by comparison you might wealthy (unlike Korea or Japan)
it’s safe enough for you not to worry about being mugged (unlike many poor countries in Africa and South America)
the social norms do not strongly condemn foreigners having contact with local women (unlike large parts of the Middle East)
the economy is pretty active, which may provide some opportunities for a foreigner (unlike some countries who may fit rest of the above, like Mongolia)
the local guys are (on average) not considered to have high seduction skills (which some attribute to spending most of their youth studying until midnight because of pressure from their families, instead of socializing)
The “latin lover” stereotype plays in your favor (I heard Chinese girls fantasize about having an adventure with a cute Italian)
It seems that a disproportionate amount of married nerds I met in real life have asian wives, and there’s probably some interesting explanation, though I don’t know which one.
Having lived for years as a western man in the Mid East, can confirm that norms are VERY IMPORTANT. If you are a girl who has trouble getting laid though, it is paradise - Unless you dislike the other forms of gender discrimination, or witnessing gender-based violence, but that is another issue.
It seems that a disproportionate amount of married nerds I met in real life have asian wives, and there’s probably some interesting explanation, though I don’t know which one.
I’ve wondered how much of this could just be socio-economic status matching: whites and east Asians in the USA are probably the two wealthiest and best-educated groups at this point.
That doesn’t fit my observations much: here in France, East Asians are a quite small slice of the wealthy-and-educated, first because there’s not that many of them, and second because the older generation’s ideal for their children is more “take over the family business” rather than “get a prestigious diploma” (this is changing though).
I suggest moving to a place where you-as-you-are will be more attractive to females. More specifically, China—it has a combination of features that make expats quite successful with the local women (or at least stack the deck in your favor):
it’s poor enough that by comparison you might wealthy (unlike Korea or Japan)
it’s safe enough for you not to worry about being mugged (unlike many poor countries in Africa and South America)
the social norms do not strongly condemn foreigners having contact with local women (unlike large parts of the Middle East)
the economy is pretty active, which may provide some opportunities for a foreigner (unlike some countries who may fit rest of the above, like Mongolia)
the local guys are (on average) not considered to have high seduction skills (which some attribute to spending most of their youth studying until midnight because of pressure from their families, instead of socializing)
The “latin lover” stereotype plays in your favor (I heard Chinese girls fantasize about having an adventure with a cute Italian)
It seems that a disproportionate amount of married nerds I met in real life have asian wives, and there’s probably some interesting explanation, though I don’t know which one.
Having lived for years as a western man in the Mid East, can confirm that norms are VERY IMPORTANT. If you are a girl who has trouble getting laid though, it is paradise - Unless you dislike the other forms of gender discrimination, or witnessing gender-based violence, but that is another issue.
Also this is generally good advice.
I’ve wondered how much of this could just be socio-economic status matching: whites and east Asians in the USA are probably the two wealthiest and best-educated groups at this point.
That doesn’t fit my observations much: here in France, East Asians are a quite small slice of the wealthy-and-educated, first because there’s not that many of them, and second because the older generation’s ideal for their children is more “take over the family business” rather than “get a prestigious diploma” (this is changing though).
I’ve considered this too, but I’m turned off by the pollution. Do you know of any reasonably big city in China that is cleaner?
Dalian and Harbin are not very polluted. And they are in the North of China, so the food is normal.