So everyone in these comments seems to be concentrating on looking nice and being fit, which is all well and good for general purpose “attractiveness” but I’ve found that while it’s helpful to look cool and be confident, my best and most reliable source of intimacy, female companionship, etc. is NOT based on that.
The best way in my experience is to find a way to hang out with women in a low pressure social environment that is not designed for seduction or anything like that. College dorms are the perfect example of this but obviously you can’t just go hang out in them to pick up chicks. The key is to have an environment where both you and the people you might be interested in already want to be. Hanging out at a friends’ house, going to meetups, or joining classes are all reasonable alternatives for this. It’s ok to have dating as a background goal for your activities, but I’ve found that if you go to something for the sole purpose of meeting women you will most often be frustrated and not have fun, so I recommend finding activities that you’re interested in trying but haven’t before. Juggling, dancing, rock climbing (as mentioned in another post) all can be fun, and tend to be very welcoming to newcomers. Climbing especially has a lot of downtime for chatting with people, but has the downside of taking place in public or semi-public areas which is anti-conducive to having more personal conversations that are important to getting to know potential intimates.
Also: Okcupid (or the Italian equivalent) can be useful.
So everyone in these comments seems to be concentrating on looking nice and being fit, which is all well and good for general purpose “attractiveness” but I’ve found that while it’s helpful to look cool and be confident, my best and most reliable source of intimacy, female companionship, etc. is NOT based on that.
The best way in my experience is to find a way to hang out with women in a low pressure social environment that is not designed for seduction or anything like that. College dorms are the perfect example of this but obviously you can’t just go hang out in them to pick up chicks. The key is to have an environment where both you and the people you might be interested in already want to be. Hanging out at a friends’ house, going to meetups, or joining classes are all reasonable alternatives for this. It’s ok to have dating as a background goal for your activities, but I’ve found that if you go to something for the sole purpose of meeting women you will most often be frustrated and not have fun, so I recommend finding activities that you’re interested in trying but haven’t before. Juggling, dancing, rock climbing (as mentioned in another post) all can be fun, and tend to be very welcoming to newcomers. Climbing especially has a lot of downtime for chatting with people, but has the downside of taking place in public or semi-public areas which is anti-conducive to having more personal conversations that are important to getting to know potential intimates.
Also: Okcupid (or the Italian equivalent) can be useful.