I’ve read on this site that you already have four girlfriend in a polyamorous relationship. Is that true? If it is, how did you achieve that without losing weight?
Some women prefer overweight men, and some don’t mind dating overweight men. If I’m honest I’m more likely to be attracted to slimmer men (certainly most of the men I’ve dated are slimmer), however I have been attracted to fat guys in the past, if they have other attractive qualities (being smart, amusing, relaxed about sex, for instance).
You are one of the few commenters who indeed didn’t suggest to lose weight. Based on your experience, what would you suggest a fat guy should concentrate on if he wanted to result attractive?
I think concentrating on improving social skills and learning to dress better are important. Regarding social skills, if you suffer from social anxiety, CBT, mindfulness and antidepressants work well. Apart from that, I don’t really know, as my social skills improved without a great deal of effort, but good self help advice is probably the way to go. I also don’t know a great deal about men’s fashion, but googling “how to dress for overweight men” brings up lots of results. A word of caution though—after getting internet fashion advice check how things look with a friend!
I think losing weight is also good idea, but you may not be able to lose it sustainably, so doing other things as well is important. Recently, I’ve wanted to look better. I am going to try to lose weight (I don’t have a great deal to lose, but I’d look better if I dropped a few kilos), but the first thing I did was buy some new clothes and get a new haircut.
At the moment I cannot really assess my social skills, but I don’t think I’m terribly anxious. If my plans come to fruition, I’ll have a good environment where to practice socializing. Although I suspect that amiably chatting with girls won’t bring me the results I’m searching for :)
Some women prefer overweight men, and some don’t mind dating overweight men. If I’m honest I’m more likely to be attracted to slimmer men (certainly most of the men I’ve dated are slimmer), however I have been attracted to fat guys in the past, if they have other attractive qualities (being smart, amusing, relaxed about sex, for instance).
You are one of the few commenters who indeed didn’t suggest to lose weight. Based on your experience, what would you suggest a fat guy should concentrate on if he wanted to result attractive?
I think concentrating on improving social skills and learning to dress better are important. Regarding social skills, if you suffer from social anxiety, CBT, mindfulness and antidepressants work well. Apart from that, I don’t really know, as my social skills improved without a great deal of effort, but good self help advice is probably the way to go. I also don’t know a great deal about men’s fashion, but googling “how to dress for overweight men” brings up lots of results. A word of caution though—after getting internet fashion advice check how things look with a friend!
I think losing weight is also good idea, but you may not be able to lose it sustainably, so doing other things as well is important. Recently, I’ve wanted to look better. I am going to try to lose weight (I don’t have a great deal to lose, but I’d look better if I dropped a few kilos), but the first thing I did was buy some new clothes and get a new haircut.
At the moment I cannot really assess my social skills, but I don’t think I’m terribly anxious. If my plans come to fruition, I’ll have a good environment where to practice socializing. Although I suspect that amiably chatting with girls won’t bring me the results I’m searching for :)