Start working on losing weight. I see that you are already taking steps, and it is commendable! Have you tried a gluten-free diet? Have you been avoiding fried/roasted food? Have you been calorie-counting?
It is not easy—in fact, it is insanely hard work! -- and it takes a long time to see results. But, as you probably already know, exercising will improve your mood, and the release of testosterone as a result of intense working out will change the way you interact with people (not just women) in general—you exude more confidence and assertiveness, which will make you more attractive. Demonstrating that you are actively doing something to improve your health (and physical attractiveness) is also a very appealing quality. How often do you exercise? Do you have a gym membership?
I apologise if this comes across as harsh, but personally I would never consider dating someone who is overweight—not for the short term, and much less the long term. It signals to me a high probability of being unable to keep up sexually (so no point in short-term dating), and a can’t-be-bothered attitude towards health issues (deal-breaker in long-term dating). But it is really nice to know that you are putting in effort—keep up the good work!
Thanks for your reply, a peek into the inner workings of a woman’s mind is always welcome!
I apologise if this comes across as harsh, but personally I would never consider dating someone who is overweight
It’s not harsh at all, if there’s no diamond in the box I want to know that. If it’s the truth, it’s the truth, there’s no use complaining.
It signals to me a high probability of being unable to keep up sexually (so no point in short-term dating)
Yeah, this was true for me in the past, so I spent a lot of time improving that. Now I have an above average sexual stamina, but of course I cannot just tell girls that.
a can’t-be-bothered attitude towards health issues (deal-breaker in long-term dating)
The ironic thing here is that I’m obsessed about my health, it’s just that I can’t seem to lose weight :)
I fully understand though that my body type signals the opposite of this, so I need to adjust.
Start working on losing weight. I see that you are already taking steps, and it is commendable! Have you tried a gluten-free diet? Have you been avoiding fried/roasted food? Have you been calorie-counting?
It is not easy—in fact, it is insanely hard work! -- and it takes a long time to see results. But, as you probably already know, exercising will improve your mood, and the release of testosterone as a result of intense working out will change the way you interact with people (not just women) in general—you exude more confidence and assertiveness, which will make you more attractive. Demonstrating that you are actively doing something to improve your health (and physical attractiveness) is also a very appealing quality. How often do you exercise? Do you have a gym membership?
I apologise if this comes across as harsh, but personally I would never consider dating someone who is overweight—not for the short term, and much less the long term. It signals to me a high probability of being unable to keep up sexually (so no point in short-term dating), and a can’t-be-bothered attitude towards health issues (deal-breaker in long-term dating). But it is really nice to know that you are putting in effort—keep up the good work!
Thanks for your reply, a peek into the inner workings of a woman’s mind is always welcome!
It’s not harsh at all, if there’s no diamond in the box I want to know that. If it’s the truth, it’s the truth, there’s no use complaining.
Yeah, this was true for me in the past, so I spent a lot of time improving that. Now I have an above average sexual stamina, but of course I cannot just tell girls that.
The ironic thing here is that I’m obsessed about my health, it’s just that I can’t seem to lose weight :)
I fully understand though that my body type signals the opposite of this, so I need to adjust.