Is this roughly the difference between “doing something even though it’s scary” and “it’s just not scary”?
I think you’re training both, although depending on what specifically you do, it’s possible that most of the benefits from CoZE exercises come from tolerating psychological discomfort. (This would be one way that doing lame stuff could generalise.)
But for example, I definitely find asking girls to dance less scary than it used to be, and in some contexts, just not scary to any noticable extent.
trying too hard here can easily lead to “Hold my beer and watch this” Darwin award training.
Yes, one of the things that CFAR is careful to emphasise is that not everything outside our comfort zones is a good idea, so we don’t want to eliminate them completely.
Is this roughly the difference between “doing something even though it’s scary” and “it’s just not scary”?
I think you’re training both, although depending on what specifically you do, it’s possible that most of the benefits from CoZE exercises come from tolerating psychological discomfort. (This would be one way that doing lame stuff could generalise.)
But for example, I definitely find asking girls to dance less scary than it used to be, and in some contexts, just not scary to any noticable extent.
Yes, one of the things that CFAR is careful to emphasise is that not everything outside our comfort zones is a good idea, so we don’t want to eliminate them completely.