Hard agree. People might be traumatised by many things, but you don’t really want to convince them they should be traumatised, or define their identity about trauma (and then possibly insist that if they swear up and down they aren’t that just means they’re really repressing or not admitting—this has happened to me). That only increases the suffering! If they’re not traumatised, great—they dodged a bullet! It doesn’t mean that e.g. sex assault is less bad—the same way shooting someone isn’t any less bad just because you happened to miss their vital organs (ok, so actually the funny thing is I guess that attempted murder is punished less than actual murder… but morally speaking, I’d say how good a shot you are has no relevance).
Hard agree. People might be traumatised by many things, but you don’t really want to convince them they should be traumatised, or define their identity about trauma (and then possibly insist that if they swear up and down they aren’t that just means they’re really repressing or not admitting—this has happened to me). That only increases the suffering! If they’re not traumatised, great—they dodged a bullet! It doesn’t mean that e.g. sex assault is less bad—the same way shooting someone isn’t any less bad just because you happened to miss their vital organs (ok, so actually the funny thing is I guess that attempted murder is punished less than actual murder… but morally speaking, I’d say how good a shot you are has no relevance).