Thanks, Kaj—I think this is a good thing to be cautious of in general. In this case I’m happy to send Duncan my thoughts, but am planning to do so privately, since I feel like that creates less incentive for other people to be like “ooh, do me!” in the hopes of getting public praise.
(I’m happy to try sending thoughts to anyone I know who wants them, though I think in plenty of cases it’ll just be “I don’t notice anything particularly remarkable about you on this axis”.)
Thanks, Kaj—I think this is a good thing to be cautious of in general. In this case I’m happy to send Duncan my thoughts, but am planning to do so privately, since I feel like that creates less incentive for other people to be like “ooh, do me!” in the hopes of getting public praise.
(I’m happy to try sending thoughts to anyone I know who wants them, though I think in plenty of cases it’ll just be “I don’t notice anything particularly remarkable about you on this axis”.)