But technology is not a good alternative to good decision making and informed values.
After thinking on this a bit, I’ve somewhat changed my mind.
(Epistemic status: filtered evidence.)
Technology and other progress has two general directions: a) more power for those who are able to wield it; b) increasing forgiveness, distance to failure. For some reason, I thought that b) was a given at least on average. However, now it came to mind that it’s possible for someone to 1) get two dates to accidentally overlap (or before confirming with partners-to-be that poly is OK), 2) lose an arbitrarily large bunch of money on gambling just online, 3) take revenge on a past offender with a firearm (or more destructive ways, as it happens), and I’m not sure the failure margins have widened over time at all.
By the way, if technology effects aren’t really on topic, I’m open to move that discussion to shortform/dialogue.
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(Epistemic status: obtained with introspection.)
Continuing the example with sweets, I estimate my terminal goals to include both “not be ill e.g. with diabetes” and “eat tasty things”. Given tech level and my current lifestyle, there isn’t instrumental goal “eat more sweets” nor “eat less sweets”; I think I’m somewhere near the balance, and I wouldn’t want society to pass any judgement.
Continuing the example with sweets, I estimate my terminal goals to include both “not be ill e.g. with diabetes” and “eat tasty things”.
That sounds basically right to me, which is why I put effort into learning (and teaching) to enjoy the right things. I’m pretty proud of the fact that both my little girls like “liver treats”.
Technology and other progress has two general directions: a) more power for those who are able to wield it; b) increasing forgiveness, distance to failure. For some reason, I thought that b) was a given at least on average.
I think that’s right, but also “more distance to failure” doesn’t help so much if you use your newfangled automobile to cover that distance more quickly. It’s easier to avoid failure, but also easier to fail. A gun makes it easier to defend yourself, and also requires you to grow up until you can make those calls correctly one hundred percent of the time. With great power comes great responsibility, and all that.
I’ll take the car, and the gun, and the society that trusts people with cars and guns and other technologically enabled freedoms. But only because I think we can aspire to such responsibilities, and notice when they’re not met. All the enabling with none of the sobering fear of recklessness isn’t a combination I’m a fan of.
With respect to the “why do you believe this” question on my previous comment about promiscuity being statistically linked with marital dissatisfaction, I’m not very good at keeping citations on hand so I can’t tell you which studies I’ve seen, but here’s what chatgpt found for me when I asked for studies on the correlation.
I don’t actually lean that hard on the empirical regularity though, because such things are complicated and messy (e.g. the example I gave of a man with a relatively high partner count succeeding because he took an anti-promiscuous stance). The main reason I believe that pills don’t remove all the costs of promiscuity is that I can see some of the causal factors at work and have experience actually working with them to help women land happy stable relationships.
After thinking on this a bit, I’ve somewhat changed my mind.
(Epistemic status: filtered evidence.)
Technology and other progress has two general directions: a) more power for those who are able to wield it; b) increasing forgiveness, distance to failure. For some reason, I thought that b) was a given at least on average. However, now it came to mind that it’s possible for someone to
1) get two dates to accidentally overlap (or before confirming with partners-to-be that poly is OK),
2) lose an arbitrarily large bunch of money on gambling just online,
3) take revenge on a past offender with a firearm (or more destructive ways, as it happens),
and I’m not sure the failure margins have widened over time at all.
By the way, if technology effects aren’t really on topic, I’m open to move that discussion to shortform/dialogue.
---
(Epistemic status: obtained with introspection.)
Continuing the example with sweets, I estimate my terminal goals to include both “not be ill e.g. with diabetes” and “eat tasty things”. Given tech level and my current lifestyle, there isn’t instrumental goal “eat more sweets” nor “eat less sweets”; I think I’m somewhere near the balance, and I wouldn’t want society to pass any judgement.
That sounds basically right to me, which is why I put effort into learning (and teaching) to enjoy the right things. I’m pretty proud of the fact that both my little girls like “liver treats”.
I think that’s right, but also “more distance to failure” doesn’t help so much if you use your newfangled automobile to cover that distance more quickly. It’s easier to avoid failure, but also easier to fail. A gun makes it easier to defend yourself, and also requires you to grow up until you can make those calls correctly one hundred percent of the time. With great power comes great responsibility, and all that.
I’ll take the car, and the gun, and the society that trusts people with cars and guns and other technologically enabled freedoms. But only because I think we can aspire to such responsibilities, and notice when they’re not met. All the enabling with none of the sobering fear of recklessness isn’t a combination I’m a fan of.
With respect to the “why do you believe this” question on my previous comment about promiscuity being statistically linked with marital dissatisfaction, I’m not very good at keeping citations on hand so I can’t tell you which studies I’ve seen, but here’s what chatgpt found for me when I asked for studies on the correlation.
https://www.jstor.org/stable/3600089
https://unews.utah.edu/u-researcher-more-sex-partners-before-marriage-doesnt-necessarily-lead-to-divorce/
https://ifstudies.org/blog/testing-common-theories-on-the-relationship-between-premarital-sex-and-marital-stability
https://www.proquest.com/openview/46b66af73b830380aca0e6fbc3b597e3/1
I don’t actually lean that hard on the empirical regularity though, because such things are complicated and messy (e.g. the example I gave of a man with a relatively high partner count succeeding because he took an anti-promiscuous stance). The main reason I believe that pills don’t remove all the costs of promiscuity is that I can see some of the causal factors at work and have experience actually working with them to help women land happy stable relationships.