I’m not sure how that thread is related to polyhacking? It’s related to polyamory, but doesn’t seem to be particularly focused on it, and polyhacking is another step removed.
Polyamory is the whole motivation for polyhacking, I guess, so that “another step” is actually very small.
And polyamory is usually advertised here as an opportunity to have more sexual freedom and be a part of the happy rationalist family. So it seems relevant to note that it may also come with a price, and that even the happy rationalist family is not perfect in avoiding the price.
(My personal opinion is that if you are 20 and you are not planning to have kids during the nearest decade, go poly. There is almost nothing to lose, because the probability of staying with the same partner ten years later is low, so you might as well share them now and get something nice in return. But I predict that as soon as children start getting born, most poly relationships will fall apart.)
I don’t know whether it’s a real issue, but if you are 20, not planning to have kids in the next 10 years, but think it possible that after that you might want to settle down monogamously and have children, then going poly now could make that second stage harder when the time comes.
(This is an empirical question. I don’t have the data to know what the answer is. Perhaps others here do.)
I feel like, if someone’s interested in polyhacking, they’ve probably already looked at evidence about whether or not to go poly. It feels somehow off to classify “polyamory, pro or con” as being about polyhacking. For one thing it’s easy to find the former, but hard to find the latter, and presenting the former as the latter makes it even harder.
It also comes across as pushing an agenda, though I don’t think that was your intent.
I’m not sure how that thread is related to polyhacking? It’s related to polyamory, but doesn’t seem to be particularly focused on it, and polyhacking is another step removed.
Polyamory is the whole motivation for polyhacking, I guess, so that “another step” is actually very small.
And polyamory is usually advertised here as an opportunity to have more sexual freedom and be a part of the happy rationalist family. So it seems relevant to note that it may also come with a price, and that even the happy rationalist family is not perfect in avoiding the price.
(My personal opinion is that if you are 20 and you are not planning to have kids during the nearest decade, go poly. There is almost nothing to lose, because the probability of staying with the same partner ten years later is low, so you might as well share them now and get something nice in return. But I predict that as soon as children start getting born, most poly relationships will fall apart.)
I don’t know whether it’s a real issue, but if you are 20, not planning to have kids in the next 10 years, but think it possible that after that you might want to settle down monogamously and have children, then going poly now could make that second stage harder when the time comes.
(This is an empirical question. I don’t have the data to know what the answer is. Perhaps others here do.)
I feel like, if someone’s interested in polyhacking, they’ve probably already looked at evidence about whether or not to go poly. It feels somehow off to classify “polyamory, pro or con” as being about polyhacking. For one thing it’s easy to find the former, but hard to find the latter, and presenting the former as the latter makes it even harder.
It also comes across as pushing an agenda, though I don’t think that was your intent.