I think the supposed best strategy would be to be known to be a vengeful person, who ruins you if you cross him, but only if it is really a valid reason, so people are not afraid to enter a social relationship with you. (only hating for the right reasons)
OTOH, do people actually differentiate at this level? If I hear someone dealt sweet revenge, I am not sure my next question is necessarily going to be ‘was it for the right reason?’
When it comes to revenge I would focus more on what’s good for my own emotional health than about how it looks like to outsiders. Don’t invest too much effort into image management. Having good emotional health results in many situations where you look good without you having to manage your image.
Revenge. It does not often come up in my life.
I think the supposed best strategy would be to be known to be a vengeful person, who ruins you if you cross him, but only if it is really a valid reason, so people are not afraid to enter a social relationship with you. (only hating for the right reasons)
OTOH, do people actually differentiate at this level? If I hear someone dealt sweet revenge, I am not sure my next question is necessarily going to be ‘was it for the right reason?’
When it comes to revenge I would focus more on what’s good for my own emotional health than about how it looks like to outsiders. Don’t invest too much effort into image management. Having good emotional health results in many situations where you look good without you having to manage your image.