Yeah, agreed that events that are “expecting effort” on the part of participants don’t usually have this problem.
The place where it seems most relevant are events that are sort of on the border between “hanging out with friends” and “hanging out with community” – house parties that play a large role in determining the overall social scene for Berkeley, where, say, 50-100 people get invited, but there 200 people in the area.
(This is not me saying anyone is doing anything wrong, just, it’s a thing to be aware of)
Yeah. For me, events at REACH are a good way to get to know new people and decide if I trust them enough to invite them to more private events. I think a lot of folks in the community are already at capacity for how many social connections they can keep up and so don’t end up wanting to get to know new people.
I think some of this stems from the fact that many people seem to prefer talking to folks one on one which makes it hard to parallelize social time. My personal preference is for groups of 5-10, sometimes within a larger social setting, and have been sorta trying to impose this preference on others through doing things at REACH :P
I think a lot of folks in the community are already at capacity for how many social connections they can keep up and so don’t end up wanting to get to know new people.
That’s basically the dynamic I was referring to. You don’t have that to the same extend with less people in a community.
Yuppers. I definitely with the addition of REACH has a good chance of reducing or eliminating this problem – having lots of public facing events solves a lot of the issues.
Yeah, agreed that events that are “expecting effort” on the part of participants don’t usually have this problem.
The place where it seems most relevant are events that are sort of on the border between “hanging out with friends” and “hanging out with community” – house parties that play a large role in determining the overall social scene for Berkeley, where, say, 50-100 people get invited, but there 200 people in the area.
(This is not me saying anyone is doing anything wrong, just, it’s a thing to be aware of)
Yeah. For me, events at REACH are a good way to get to know new people and decide if I trust them enough to invite them to more private events. I think a lot of folks in the community are already at capacity for how many social connections they can keep up and so don’t end up wanting to get to know new people.
I think some of this stems from the fact that many people seem to prefer talking to folks one on one which makes it hard to parallelize social time. My personal preference is for groups of 5-10, sometimes within a larger social setting, and have been sorta trying to impose this preference on others through doing things at REACH :P
That’s basically the dynamic I was referring to. You don’t have that to the same extend with less people in a community.
Yuppers. I definitely with the addition of REACH has a good chance of reducing or eliminating this problem – having lots of public facing events solves a lot of the issues.