The conclusion is simply: if this applies to you, try to be aware of it and prevent it from getting in your way.
But if none of the things under the section at the top beginning âSee if any of this sound familiarâ actually seem familiar to you, then this post wonât be relevant or applicable to you.
In fact, please let this post pass your mind, and carry on âmoving forward foreverâ and feeling awesome! đ
That being said, I could see how this feeling would come about if the value/âimportance in question is being imposed on you by others, rather than being the value you truly assign to the project. In that case, such a burden can weigh heavily and manifest aversively. But avoiding something you actually assign said value to just seems like a basic error in utility math?
Many people I know personally (including myself) have experienced or regularly experience this âimposedâ âburdenâ youâre referring to, except they place it on themselves with âoughtâ and âshouldâ (instead of âwantâ, for example). (âI am going to work on that this month.â Vs âI want to work on that this month.â Vs âI should work on that this month.â Vs âI have to work on that this month.â The differences are subtle in language but massive in cognitive weight.)
Sometimes itâs like having someone inside your head with a whip trying to drive behavior with excessive pressure according to some maxim or moral imperative. This is obviously not healthy or long-term effective, but some people genuinely go through this (and some never make it out of it).
Thatâs awesome! Iâm jealous :)
The conclusion is simply: if this applies to you, try to be aware of it and prevent it from getting in your way.
But if none of the things under the section at the top beginning âSee if any of this sound familiarâ actually seem familiar to you, then this post wonât be relevant or applicable to you.
In fact, please let this post pass your mind, and carry on âmoving forward foreverâ and feeling awesome! đ
That being said, I could see how this feeling would come about if the value/âimportance in question is being imposed on you by others, rather than being the value you truly assign to the project. In that case, such a burden can weigh heavily and manifest aversively. But avoiding something you actually assign said value to just seems like a basic error in utility math?
Many people I know personally (including myself) have experienced or regularly experience this âimposedâ âburdenâ youâre referring to, except they place it on themselves with âoughtâ and âshouldâ (instead of âwantâ, for example). (âI am going to work on that this month.â Vs âI want to work on that this month.â Vs âI should work on that this month.â Vs âI have to work on that this month.â The differences are subtle in language but massive in cognitive weight.)
Sometimes itâs like having someone inside your head with a whip trying to drive behavior with excessive pressure according to some maxim or moral imperative. This is obviously not healthy or long-term effective, but some people genuinely go through this (and some never make it out of it).