I’ve noticed that some varieties of interesting people (programmers, writers, painters, composers) like to get away from their regular routine to work on projects. They sometimes get invited to retreat centers, which are in remote areas, where they work on their projects, and get housing and regular meals.
Do you have the resources to invite interesting house guests for brief project visits?
Even if I did, inviting a stranger to live with me sounds questionable.
Invite people you know from online. Bayesian updating should give you a decent baseline for whether it’s plausible that this person is just scamming you. It’s a bit of a trust leap, but I’ve done it plenty and no one has taken advantage of me. It also helps to remind myself that traveling all that way just to rob me is a pretty big financial waste, and rapists probably aren’t going to spend weeks getting to know me online (nor are either group likely to be people I find fun to talk to online to begin with!)
I don’t see what kind of project could possibly happen here.
Programming can happen anyplace I can plug in my laptop, and a change of scenery often helps, as does having someone interesting around to fill the rest of my day. Writing can happen even without electricity. Drawing, world building, sketching out plans for other projects and soliciting feedback, bouncing ideas off of you. Most any craft skill (sewing, wood carving, knitting), and those also presumably are a lot more fun to do around someone else.
You could also just go on random wandering adventures if you live in a nice neighborhood or near some interesting wilderness. Requires a car or a proclivity for walking, of course. I get the impression you don’t have a car, but your visitors might.
Yea, that’d work obviously, but it limits the pool to people I know personally online. The probability of that AND them being close enough AND them wanting to do a visit/project like that is low enough that it seems unlikely to ever happen.
And what about any of those things can’t they do at home? Perhaps you’re operating under the assumption that I am interesting or useful in any way?
Perhaps you’re operating under the assumption that I am interesting or useful in any way?
Humans are social animals. They like being around other humans. Ook ook. That’s really all that’s necessary, aside from being socially compatible. Unless you have some condition that makes you significantly worse at face-to-face interactions, people who like you online will probably like you face-to-face.
This is highly counterintuitive to me, but it’s worth a shot and asking shouldn’t hurt. Thanks. Still have no idea how to find anyone who lives close enough and might be interested thou.
Extraverts are weird like that. It’s generally counter-intuitive to introverts, but observably true in many (possibly most, depending on how you account for selection bias) cases anyway.
I don’t see quite how introversion or extroversion is relevant to this. I don’t see why they’d expect the quality of social interaction to be higher quality than some random neighbour within walking distance.
The same reason you’d prefer to talk to them online, rather than some random person off AOL—you’re someone who shares interests and has the intelligence required to follow what they’re talking about.
I’ve noticed that some varieties of interesting people (programmers, writers, painters, composers) like to get away from their regular routine to work on projects. They sometimes get invited to retreat centers, which are in remote areas, where they work on their projects, and get housing and regular meals.
Do you have the resources to invite interesting house guests for brief project visits?
Nope.
Even if I did, inviting a stranger to live with me sounds questionable. And also I don’t see what kind of project could possibly happen here.
Invite people you know from online. Bayesian updating should give you a decent baseline for whether it’s plausible that this person is just scamming you. It’s a bit of a trust leap, but I’ve done it plenty and no one has taken advantage of me. It also helps to remind myself that traveling all that way just to rob me is a pretty big financial waste, and rapists probably aren’t going to spend weeks getting to know me online (nor are either group likely to be people I find fun to talk to online to begin with!)
Programming can happen anyplace I can plug in my laptop, and a change of scenery often helps, as does having someone interesting around to fill the rest of my day. Writing can happen even without electricity. Drawing, world building, sketching out plans for other projects and soliciting feedback, bouncing ideas off of you. Most any craft skill (sewing, wood carving, knitting), and those also presumably are a lot more fun to do around someone else.
You could also just go on random wandering adventures if you live in a nice neighborhood or near some interesting wilderness. Requires a car or a proclivity for walking, of course. I get the impression you don’t have a car, but your visitors might.
Yea, that’d work obviously, but it limits the pool to people I know personally online. The probability of that AND them being close enough AND them wanting to do a visit/project like that is low enough that it seems unlikely to ever happen.
And what about any of those things can’t they do at home? Perhaps you’re operating under the assumption that I am interesting or useful in any way?
Humans are social animals. They like being around other humans. Ook ook. That’s really all that’s necessary, aside from being socially compatible. Unless you have some condition that makes you significantly worse at face-to-face interactions, people who like you online will probably like you face-to-face.
This is highly counterintuitive to me, but it’s worth a shot and asking shouldn’t hurt. Thanks. Still have no idea how to find anyone who lives close enough and might be interested thou.
Extraverts are weird like that. It’s generally counter-intuitive to introverts, but observably true in many (possibly most, depending on how you account for selection bias) cases anyway.
I don’t see quite how introversion or extroversion is relevant to this. I don’t see why they’d expect the quality of social interaction to be higher quality than some random neighbour within walking distance.
The same reason you’d prefer to talk to them online, rather than some random person off AOL—you’re someone who shares interests and has the intelligence required to follow what they’re talking about.
… Ooooooooh, NOW I get it. And feel like an idiot.