If we say “declare your agendas”, and leave it up to the individual to decide whether to keep common, personal, embarrassing, uninteresting motives to themselves, then it’s a good idea. It’s just the word “hidden” that gives me trouble. And “signaling”.
I mean, we’ve demonstrated pretty thoroughly in our exchanges that we’re all emotional beings. Diplomacy was defined by some famous diplomat (Bismarck?) as being primarily about hiding your motives. Sometimes, saying what you really think just shuts discussion down. Sometimes I write something in response to someone else’s opinion that I think is wrong, and I may judge it undiplomatic to spell that out.
If we say “declare your agendas”, and leave it up to the individual to decide whether to keep common, personal, embarrassing, uninteresting motives to themselves, then it’s a good idea. It’s just the word “hidden” that gives me trouble. And “signaling”.
I mean, we’ve demonstrated pretty thoroughly in our exchanges that we’re all emotional beings. Diplomacy was defined by some famous diplomat (Bismarck?) as being primarily about hiding your motives. Sometimes, saying what you really think just shuts discussion down. Sometimes I write something in response to someone else’s opinion that I think is wrong, and I may judge it undiplomatic to spell that out.