One thing I think generalizes, for example, is that after a few traumatic experiences along those lines it’s emotionally difficult to keep giving people the benefit of the doubt, and emotionally easy to treat new people as homophobic or antiSemitic or racist or sexist or what-have-you until and unless they do something active to demonstrate that they aren’t.
This pattern-matches very gracefully with my experiences and observations. As I mention in another response, it seems likely that I’ve encountered almost only a certain kind of feminists that has a very personal near-mode emotional reaction to men.
Besides being a “geek” with slight social disregard from social circles I had no interest in during high school, I fortunately never had those situations you describe. I happened to have all the right skills to avoid being marginalized for what few outlier qualities I had. Thus, despite pattern-matching with many of the qualities of the stereotypical bullied frail school nerd, I don’t particularly identify well with them and my mental model of them is much worse than people would expect.
My own mental model of feminists was derived mostly from my generalized mental model of “people”, with the “ideologist” module added, and whatever empathic cues and type-1 intuitions I’ve had during interactions with them. Recent events on LessWrong allowed me to update this model quite a bit with a lot more evidence, but it still feels very incomplete and vague.
(nods) Makes sense. Certainly, my own level of compassion for and understanding of people experiencing various levels of post-traumatic response increased enormously after I went through traumatic experiences of my own. I don’t think it’s necessary, nor is it sufficient, but it helps.
I suppose the question is, is it worth it to you to do the work to develop analogous properties in the absence of those “advantages,” or not?
If it isn’t and you don’t, that’s of course a choice you’re free to make, but it ought not surprise you that your subsequent interactions with certain classes of people won’t go as smoothly as they would if you did.
This pattern-matches very gracefully with my experiences and observations. As I mention in another response, it seems likely that I’ve encountered almost only a certain kind of feminists that has a very personal near-mode emotional reaction to men.
Besides being a “geek” with slight social disregard from social circles I had no interest in during high school, I fortunately never had those situations you describe. I happened to have all the right skills to avoid being marginalized for what few outlier qualities I had. Thus, despite pattern-matching with many of the qualities of the stereotypical bullied frail school nerd, I don’t particularly identify well with them and my mental model of them is much worse than people would expect.
My own mental model of feminists was derived mostly from my generalized mental model of “people”, with the “ideologist” module added, and whatever empathic cues and type-1 intuitions I’ve had during interactions with them. Recent events on LessWrong allowed me to update this model quite a bit with a lot more evidence, but it still feels very incomplete and vague.
(nods) Makes sense. Certainly, my own level of compassion for and understanding of people experiencing various levels of post-traumatic response increased enormously after I went through traumatic experiences of my own. I don’t think it’s necessary, nor is it sufficient, but it helps.
I suppose the question is, is it worth it to you to do the work to develop analogous properties in the absence of those “advantages,” or not?
If it isn’t and you don’t, that’s of course a choice you’re free to make, but it ought not surprise you that your subsequent interactions with certain classes of people won’t go as smoothly as they would if you did.