Paralysis via analysis is a big possibility for this audience. It’s worth noting the power law: 80 percent of the variance in outcomes is hotness/picture quality, a big chunk of the remainder is, broadly, mental health and values overlap (dealbreakers on long term life plans). Women’s rating of male attractiveness varies about twice as much as men’s based on controllable factors of good clothes and good grooming.
Attractiveness is also not a uni-dimensional ranking! Ranking of facial differences correlated with genetic distance and immune system compatibility seems to be a thing such that there is arbitrage in the dating market, but you have to expose yourself to a certain number of people to take advantage of it on expectation. Concretely what this means is that there are people out there that others ‘rank’ a 6 but you’d rank a 7 or even 8, and the same applies to you.
Mental health is a tractable intervention, but like the gym will take about a year to pay serious dividends. For many it’s not clear where to start with this, ime the highest impact intervention is finding a self therapy modality that you like, then committing to doing one on one space holding for it with a friend twice a week (once facilitated, once facilitator). Both sides build skills.
Paralysis via analysis is a big possibility for this audience. It’s worth noting the power law: 80 percent of the variance in outcomes is hotness/picture quality, a big chunk of the remainder is, broadly, mental health and values overlap (dealbreakers on long term life plans). Women’s rating of male attractiveness varies about twice as much as men’s based on controllable factors of good clothes and good grooming.
Attractiveness is also not a uni-dimensional ranking! Ranking of facial differences correlated with genetic distance and immune system compatibility seems to be a thing such that there is arbitrage in the dating market, but you have to expose yourself to a certain number of people to take advantage of it on expectation. Concretely what this means is that there are people out there that others ‘rank’ a 6 but you’d rank a 7 or even 8, and the same applies to you.
Mental health is a tractable intervention, but like the gym will take about a year to pay serious dividends. For many it’s not clear where to start with this, ime the highest impact intervention is finding a self therapy modality that you like, then committing to doing one on one space holding for it with a friend twice a week (once facilitated, once facilitator). Both sides build skills.
Actually this got me thinking, to what degree does attractiveness influence fashion+grooming choices vs the other way around.