I see you stuffing Harry into a box you’ve made, and stuffing his parents into caricatures of their traits.
He studies to impress Mommy? No, he studies because he wants to know.
He avoids average students because he has little in common with them.
Harry’s efforts to save Hermione are also selfish
Let’s see. He gave up his fortune and went into debt to an enemy to protect her. He was fully ready and willing to risk his own life and dreams to save her.
On hearing the suffering of people in Azkaban, criminals, the lowest status of all that no one cares about, that other people approve of torturing, he almost kills himself with his desire to save them.
Is that what we’re calling selfish these days? I could do with more of such selfishness in the world.
As for visions of grandiose self importance—they aren’t visions if they’re real. That’s just the story. He is that important and special. He’s a child prodigy. He’s a wizard. He’s making independent and significant discoveries in transfiguration. He can destroy dementors. He broke someone out of the unbreachable Azkaban. And he’s doing this a nine years old, in less than a year from his first exposure to magic. Oh, and somehow at 1 year old he seems to have defeated the Dark Lord against whom the whole of the wizarding world was helpless.
Envious or believes they are envied? Check.
And the proof of this you give is an instance of someone actually envying him? Would he be more psychologically healthy if he was delusional and couldn’t see the envy? And even in that case, my recollection is that he wasn’t focused on the envy at all, but more on the great white shark who passed up making a snack of him. Fear, relief, and relative inferiority and powerlessness seemed the emotions of the moment.
Do you see how this example just didn’t fit your model? There’s a lot of that going on here.
Is his dad particularly narcissistic? No. You could make a better argument about his mom, who was considering suicide because of the consequences of her poor looks. Yet she seems perfectly well adjusted now that she is pretty and people are nice to her. And wanting to have your husband trust you and take your word for something you know to be true is not narcissism.
the narcissistic parent seeks validation from the child’s accomplishments
Neither of them particularly plays stage mom, pushing Harry, or putting him forward publicly to get attention for themselves. They’re supportive in what he wants to do.
I see you stuffing Harry into a box you’ve made, and stuffing his parents into caricatures of their traits.
He studies to impress Mommy? No, he studies because he wants to know.
He avoids average students because he has little in common with them.
Let’s see. He gave up his fortune and went into debt to an enemy to protect her. He was fully ready and willing to risk his own life and dreams to save her.
On hearing the suffering of people in Azkaban, criminals, the lowest status of all that no one cares about, that other people approve of torturing, he almost kills himself with his desire to save them.
Is that what we’re calling selfish these days? I could do with more of such selfishness in the world.
As for visions of grandiose self importance—they aren’t visions if they’re real. That’s just the story. He is that important and special. He’s a child prodigy. He’s a wizard. He’s making independent and significant discoveries in transfiguration. He can destroy dementors. He broke someone out of the unbreachable Azkaban. And he’s doing this a nine years old, in less than a year from his first exposure to magic. Oh, and somehow at 1 year old he seems to have defeated the Dark Lord against whom the whole of the wizarding world was helpless.
And the proof of this you give is an instance of someone actually envying him? Would he be more psychologically healthy if he was delusional and couldn’t see the envy? And even in that case, my recollection is that he wasn’t focused on the envy at all, but more on the great white shark who passed up making a snack of him. Fear, relief, and relative inferiority and powerlessness seemed the emotions of the moment.
Do you see how this example just didn’t fit your model? There’s a lot of that going on here.
Is his dad particularly narcissistic? No. You could make a better argument about his mom, who was considering suicide because of the consequences of her poor looks. Yet she seems perfectly well adjusted now that she is pretty and people are nice to her. And wanting to have your husband trust you and take your word for something you know to be true is not narcissism.
Neither of them particularly plays stage mom, pushing Harry, or putting him forward publicly to get attention for themselves. They’re supportive in what he wants to do.