There’s no reason you should be a pariah accidentally simply because you have clarified your goals or gotten better at implementing them.
One possibility—your estimate of how many people are not friends to you. That sucks, but you can’t force another person to be a good person at you.
Remember the right way to approach someone-is-wrong-on-the-internet, and apply the same principle to in-person interactions.
I’d like to find a way to present myself favorably to almost any crowd.
This is a much harder, and dramatically different goal, from not being a pariah.
There is value in having crowds that view you mildly and strongly disfavourably, but much of this value depends on the rule of law in one’s immediate environment.
There’s no reason you should be a pariah accidentally simply because you have clarified your goals or gotten better at implementing them.
One possibility—your estimate of how many people are not friends to you. That sucks, but you can’t force another person to be a good person at you.
Remember the right way to approach someone-is-wrong-on-the-internet, and apply the same principle to in-person interactions.
This is a much harder, and dramatically different goal, from not being a pariah.
There is value in having crowds that view you mildly and strongly disfavourably, but much of this value depends on the rule of law in one’s immediate environment.