What makes it impersonal from my perspective is not their priors, more that doing well at relationships is all about getting women to like you.
Doing well at relationships is about getting people to like you… right? Thinking of how best to fulfill other people’s criteria isn’t always the best way to think about dating from the inside (sometimes it’s better to display what you want and let people come to you); nevertheless, being successful at relationships is about fulfilling the criteria of people you want relationships with. Am I not understanding your post?
being successful at relationships is about fulfilling the criteria of people you want relationships with.
If the “people you want” is the same as the “people that would be good for you” then yes. If you are unskilled in relationships then they are less likely to be the same and it is possible to get into relationships that aren’t good for you. In this case being good at relationships is about knowing how to extract yourself from the situation with minimum drama.
Doing well at relationships is about getting people to like you… right? Thinking of how best to fulfill other people’s criteria isn’t always the best way to think about dating from the inside (sometimes it’s better to display what you want and let people come to you); nevertheless, being successful at relationships is about fulfilling the criteria of people you want relationships with. Am I not understanding your post?
If the “people you want” is the same as the “people that would be good for you” then yes. If you are unskilled in relationships then they are less likely to be the same and it is possible to get into relationships that aren’t good for you. In this case being good at relationships is about knowing how to extract yourself from the situation with minimum drama.