I’m very sorry to hear about your dog. It’s a very difficult thing to go through even without any predisposition towards depression.
This is probably an idiosyncratic thing that only helps me, but I find remembering that time is a dimension just like space helps a little bit. In the little slice of time I inhabit, a pet or person who has passed on is gone. From a higher-dimensional perspective, they haven’t gone anywhere. If someone were to be capable of observing from a higher dimension, they could see the deceased just as I remember them in life. So in the same way that someone whose children are living far from home can remind themselves that their children are in another place, likewise your dog is living happily in another time. English doesn’t quite have a tense that conveys the sentiment I want to convey, but I think you get the idea. Don’t know if that line of thought does anything for you—I find it a small but useful comfort.
Re actually doing exercise/positive self-talk when you’re down, setting up little conditionals that I make into automatic habits by following them robotically has sometimes worked for me. “IF notice self getting anxious—THEN take five minute walk outside”. Obviously setting up those in the first place and following through on them the first n times only works when in an OK mood, but once they become habits they’re easier to follow through on in more difficult states of mind. I’ve also found the Negative Self-Talk/Positive Thinking table at the bottom of the page here to be useful.
But hard things are hard no matter what. Sounds like you’re doing the right thing now by making the most of the time you have together. Best of luck to you.
I’m very sorry to hear about your dog. It’s a very difficult thing to go through even without any predisposition towards depression.
This is probably an idiosyncratic thing that only helps me, but I find remembering that time is a dimension just like space helps a little bit. In the little slice of time I inhabit, a pet or person who has passed on is gone. From a higher-dimensional perspective, they haven’t gone anywhere. If someone were to be capable of observing from a higher dimension, they could see the deceased just as I remember them in life. So in the same way that someone whose children are living far from home can remind themselves that their children are in another place, likewise your dog is living happily in another time. English doesn’t quite have a tense that conveys the sentiment I want to convey, but I think you get the idea. Don’t know if that line of thought does anything for you—I find it a small but useful comfort.
Re actually doing exercise/positive self-talk when you’re down, setting up little conditionals that I make into automatic habits by following them robotically has sometimes worked for me. “IF notice self getting anxious—THEN take five minute walk outside”. Obviously setting up those in the first place and following through on them the first n times only works when in an OK mood, but once they become habits they’re easier to follow through on in more difficult states of mind. I’ve also found the Negative Self-Talk/Positive Thinking table at the bottom of the page here to be useful.
But hard things are hard no matter what. Sounds like you’re doing the right thing now by making the most of the time you have together. Best of luck to you.